Okay…that Was…um…Something



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Pretoria
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Okay… that was… um… something

How long ago did this hookup happen? About a week ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was of a big build, dark hair, dark eyes. We hooked up before about two years ago, but that was just a casual make out session. I had never felt such an attraction to a person before, such desire, such longing. Lust. It was lust I was feeling and iIwas going down this pathway with eyes and later on; legs open.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? While we were texting he mentioned that we should “hang out” again sometime and I agreed. We had planned a date for the actual hookup to happen, but it really happened a week earlier. He was in the midst of his year-end exams and so I suggested that we do the hangout a week earlier and we did.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Our first hookup/make out session took place in his car so it was the first time him coming into my house, I gave him a quick house tour then darted off to my room where the deed took place. We started kissing, he was aggressive from the get-go and that put me on edge, I really tried to calm myself down, he could tell I was nervous, but that didn’t stop him. He continued to kiss me and caress my body, soon our underwear was gone and there was about to be penetration. So I’m kind of new to this sex thing, but so far I’ve enjoyed the basic missionary position and I was thrown a curve ball when he basically lifted my legs and entered me like that. I’m not gonna lie–it felt good. I wasn’t really in it to have an orgasm; it was more of having the feel good feeling of the situation. The way he was thrusting felt like it was gonna be a “smash and dash”; I was fine with that, I asked him what he wanted to do after; he answered my question with a question. So we cleaned up what needed to be cleaned, got dressed and we hung for a bit and off he went. We didn’t kiss goodbye, hug or anything. I just opened the gate for him and he got in his car and left. We text every now and then, but we haven’t discussed our encounter with one another. I feel like it’s something we should discuss in person rather that over text.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Well, we cleaned up what needed to be cleaned. We chilled for a bit and then he was on his way. We texted after, him just making sure I was okay; I told him I was. But was I really? The first time hooking up was like this for me and I was somewhat traumatised. I realised that I’m more attracted to the idea of the person, rather that the person himself. Truthfully I do wanna hookup with him again, more of a redo of the first time; now that I know what to expect.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To cheer myself up, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t regret the person whom I hooked up with, yet I regret how it happened. I didn’t want to have sex the first time. Maybe some wondering hands and some oral activities and then sex the second or third time. I was unprepared.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got a taste of what the real world is like.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? i didn’t enjoy myself as much as i could have.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Sex is about confidence, knowing what you like and dislike. I may not be ready for the casual sex scence, but I can only learn from this experience.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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