What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? U.S.A.
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Financial
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Lutheran
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 46
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
On the Toronado
How long ago did this hookup happen? 36 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was in my high school class, with short dark hair, beautiful lashes and brilliant light blue eyes. The main thing you noticed was the eyes. He was a farm boy and a wrestler in the lower weight classes. We did not run in the same circles, but he was a jovial, nice guy and I was kind of a delinquent.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was a bar in a very small town 12 miles away where high school kids could drink, even though the legal age was 19. I ran into him there one night in the middle of the week, and we drank beer all night until midnight or so. We were the only students in there that night. We got super drunk and slow danced to to the juke box, while the bar owner looked on.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After the bar closed, we drove into the country on a gravel road. It was a beautiful breezy night and the grass along the narrow road was high, waving in the wind. The moon was out and we were in his mid 70’s Toronado, which was an enormous land yacht of a car. We were making out in the car, and starting to have sex, first with exploration by hand and then pulling our clothes off. Then I said, “Let’s go onto the hood.” So we go out of the car naked and got on the hood, missionary style. This was before the White Snake video, folks, and in the humid spring air, my skin totally stuck to the car like I was glued onto it. The condom became uncomfortable, and we pulled it off him and threw it in the ditch. But we did the deed and parted ways with him dropping me to my car probably close to dawn, and I slipped home and went to high school the next day.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We did not have anything more to do with each other. It was like our worlds collided for just that night. I quit drinking within the next year, and he had an alcohol related accidental death in his 20s.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one that I recall.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was gorgeous and a nice guy whow liked to laugh. After I heard that he died I was really glad it had happened, looking back. And the setting was amazing, under a huge prairie night sky and with all the earthy scents of spring.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. This was pre AIDS, herpes, etc., pre cell phone.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This is one of my fondest memories of high school sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have spent the last 35 years in two serial monogamous relationships, but I really miss the variety of those younger adventures. My earlier trysts have given me a lot more confidence in my marriages, in that I felt I had taken a pretty good sample before settling down.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I check in quite often and find it very fun.
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