One Evening Stand

by BZ

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 78
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Not sure
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

One Evening Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? About 40 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a light-skinned African-American man, a neighbor. We were friendly, but not friends.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My husband and I hosted a wine and cheese party, this was the eighties, for some neighbors and a few friends. Most people had left. My husband was on the couch making out with a woman from our congregation, he was a Rabbi. This was a first, but I tried to ignore it and just talk to our neighbor seated near me on the floor. I was in the chair. My husband, now my ex-, and the woman headed upstairs to the bedroom. I turned to my neighbor had said, “Why don’t you fuck me?”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I stood and took off my sandals, jeans, and panties, then sat back in the chair with my pussy at the edge. He pulled his cock through his zipper. I remember that is was very long and thin. He pushed it into me and fucked me very fast.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He left right after. I fell asleep on the couch listening to my husband fucking the woman upstairs.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A later boyfriend. I left out the sad parts. It turned him on.

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? That should be obvious by now.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I did not feel that my ex did something I could not do too.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was an empty experience and did not really give me what I needed. Things were awkward with my neighbor after that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. Not all experiences were that experience.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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