What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Healthcare
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
One Night Stand…For Now
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is 6’5”, long-limbed, fit, hipster hairy, boyish, and STRAIGHT as straight can be, a dude. We met in a gay bar as it was an after-work holiday party stop for him, a stop after a holiday party for me to meet a good friend, unplanned.
I got there around 1:30 am.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Being drunk, like fun, living -life drunk and exceptionally horny, husband away and consents; I was feeling great, I walked up to him and asked him if he wanted to make-out and fuck tonight. He said yes and when would I want to leave. A little while later we were in a cab and feverishly making out. it was fun, drunk, teenager-like fun.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Did I mention he is 9 years younger than me? Yup, so there’s that. The biggest age diff ever, but there is something to be said for younger men after a certain age. I say that because that boy was all over me and wanted only to pleasure me with his mouth, hands, lips, fingers. He wanted to watch and hear me cum and he got to like 12 times over a few hours. Yup, hours! We had drunk , fun sex for like 2 hours. The kissing was on point! It was as if we had been lovers for years. He ate my pussy and my ass out extremely well. I knew I was drunk bc I let that happen and actually enjoyed it. He ALMOST made me squirt.
It was as if he was in my mind, I wanted to be serviced, pleasured, have multiple orgasms and do as little work as possible. He made that happen. him being 6’5” and me 5’0” he was able to turn me out!! Picture the gentlest sexiest body slamming. That is what he did to me while fucking me long, hard and good in a few different positions. He knew how to use his hips and his cock.
We passed out for a few hours and played around in the morning. In the morning, he looked at me and my body and said “oh, you’re really pretty and you have a hot body! Go me.” I thought that was absolutely hysterical and he continued to finger fuck me and play with my clit. We also chatted about how drunk we were a few hours before and what went on and how much fun it was. he realized that I was married and we spoke about being open. Talked about why he was where he was last night and agreed that we had a lot of fun and would be interested in fucking again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great about it next day and so did he.
I will see this person again on a random night when I am feeling frisky.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one but meeting a friend for lunch tomorrow to discuss.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? it was of the most spontaneously sexual, successful things I have done. I had such a great time and multiple good orgasms and it completely satisfied my needs that night!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His bed
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It gave me a boost in overall feelings of possessing power and how to positively use it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have always been a fan of casual sex, I feel that it is a normal desire and I appreciate the pioneers of the past and current new sexual revolution.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? a million thumbs up!
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