ONS Overseas

by Anna

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Singapore
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Part time student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Experimental, sexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

ONS Overseas

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Used the Tinder app and swiped right on an attractive Greek guy whilst I was in Athens. He had stubble and short, wavy hair. Boyish charm. Major f*boi vibes. We chatted and I told him I was back in my hotel room, chilling. He suggested bringing over some drinks and chilling together and I obliged. He came over 40 minutes after our conversation.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I wasnt really planning to hook up with anyone in my hotel room. I thought i could go on a tinder dinner date. I knew that when he suggested to come over to chill with me, we were gonna “Netflix and chill”. So, I told him if we’re gonna end up doing more than just chilling that he had to come prepared (condom) since the last thing I wanted to contract was an STI or get impregnated.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, he was a tad kinky. Got me in all sorts of positions (cowgirl, him carrying me, doggy). There was oral involved. He spanked me and was into dirty talks. Kept asking me to play and lick his scrotum. He was insatiable…told me he wasn’t done with me. He gave me a hard pounding till I hit my head on the nightstand…We went at it for a while…he wanted to cum into my mouth and do it without a condom but I objected.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he came, I told him that I had to wake up early for my ferry. He kissed me goodbye and told me if I was back in Athens that we could hook up again. I told him it was highly unlikely as it was a one-time thing. I felt a tad unsatisfied and a bit sore. Mixed emotions. Felt self-loathe for hooking up with a complete stranger but then I got over it and will continue satisfying my sexual needs.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told my close girlfriends and they were shocked as they did not think I was the kind of girl who would be involved in hookups and one night stands. They didn’t shun me after my confession. They just told me to be safe.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was attractive and easy on the eyes. Nice bod. Experience something different in terms of sexual positions and spanking.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Close to orgasm..unfortunately

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, made me realize that you can have casual sex and not be emotionally invested in your partner. Once the deed is done, there is no lingering feelings, a need to continue meeting that person or establish some sort of “relationship”.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? In this day and age, casual sex is normal but it is still a taboo topic. Asian society is still conservative and we don’t really openly talk about it. Society should stop being so close-minded and not slut-shame females who indulge in casual sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great insight on real-life casual sex experiences for those who are thinking about doing it or has done it.

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