What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Atlanta GA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Writer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This was an older man, I was 17 and he was just over 30. He was tall and super nice looking. I had known him slightly because my best friend was a student at his school. He was always this sexy, mysterious guy that all the girls at her high school had crushes on, but nothing had ever happened. Need to make that clear.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My friend had the babysitting job that was supposed to last until 2. I was going over around 11 to hang out with her. We had done this before, but this time her folks were out of town, so we planned to party at her house after, just us. I had a sort of date and he dropped me off around 11. She was already drinking and it did not go well. She was smashed and passed out. I didn’t know what to do, so I looked in the rooms and one was clearly guest room. So I helped her get into bed.
No sooner than that, he came home. Two hours early for his date. He was not unused to me being there sometimes, but he was looking for Cheryl. I tried to cover for her, but he figured it out. And he was mad.
He went to call her parents and now I was desperate. I told him they were not home and she would get in so much trouble.
He sat on the couch and we talked about options. It was cool because he hated me as my strategies mattered. He agreed to let her sleep it off for a bit and then he would drive us to her house.
He grabbed a beer and sat down. I asked if I could have one too and he said no but then he related when I halfway kidding pleaded for one. I’d nothing. I sat across from him. He asked me what I had been up and I told him about my date which sucked. He laughed and said his too. So for like an hour we just talked and then we went to check on C. When we came in, she had thrown the covers off and was flat on her back snoring. But the thing was her skirt was way up and you could see her panties. He freaked out. He fled the room and told me to roll her over so she would drown in her vomit if she threw up.
When I got her rolled over he on the couch and I was like telling him not to worry. This is why he didn’t want to drink he said. And I could understand.
Now we were both a little buzzed. So I sat down next to him this time. I was attracted and feeling reckless.
I said there was nothing to worry about. No one would know about her being drunk. He said yes, but he was definitely not supposed to see his senior students in underwear. And I said at least I’m not at your school. I don’t even know why I said it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? That comment basically started it. We drank another beer and were closer on the couch. But instead of just coming on to me, we talked some more and he switched the conversation to sex. Not in a gross way. He started by asking about my date and made some comment about seniors making out. I said we did not make out. And he said, but you had. I said well of course. Then he really pushed it, as I had before. He directly asked me if I had ‘gone all the way,” which was so cute since no one said that. I told the truth: two boys.
What I found out that night is still true. In sex, I like verbal and visual things. I told him about the second boy and he looked at me and said he was turned on. I was too and suddenly we were kissing.
The sex was amazing. I had never had anyone go down on me, so that was new. He put me on top first and switched out positions different times. He had not had an orgasm and I was suddenly a little worried, so I whispered for him not to come. He immediately took it out. His hand was still on his penis as he knelt between my legs and he slowly started to jerk off. I had always thought that was so nasty but to see it turned me on. Within maybe a minute he came, turning his body so it didn’t go on me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept the secret.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting oral sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Right after we were both super awkward till we got dressed
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Slightly older men know more about sex than boys in high school
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I sleep with men when I like them and want to. I like sex and I like men.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s fascinating. I have learned stuff.
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