What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Call Center Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? about 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? When I was 21
What was your relationship status at the time? Getting a divorce
How would you best classify this hookup? Revenge Sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Bill was my soon to be ex’s brother. Truthfully, he was a good-looking 18-year-old. I don’t think that he was that experienced. It was just a spur of the moment idea, because of the way that my ex had treated me
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Bill had stopped by the house to drop off some paperwork. We had started divorce proceeding and I was moving out to an apartment. My children were at my mother’s and I was there to pick up a few things. My ex was a real man-whore and I finally got tired of him sleeping around. As I said, it was spur of the moment. I was so angry at him and I wanted him to feel as embarrassed as he had made me. I have ample breasts and wasn’t wearing a bra at the time. I was looking over the papers to make sure that my ex hadn’t forgotten anything. His brother, who couldn’t take his eyes off my boobs, says, “Man, Butch doesn’t know what he’ losing”.
That is when the idea hit me. I asked him if he liked what he was looking at. He had this shit eating grin on his face and said hell yeah, just like a cocky kid. I took him by the hand and led him back to the bedroom.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I could tell by the look on his face that he was excited and I thought that it would be a quick romp. Even though he was inexperienced, he was very enthusiastic and had vigor and stamina. While he wasn’t huge, his cock was more than adequate and as stiff as a rock. We kissed, he was good at that. We did oral. He didn’t need that much attention as he was oozing, but he zeroed in on my pussy. He wasn’t that good at oral, he was all over the place. He definitely was turned on by me licking his dick and his precum tasted good.
Then I figured I’d just do him missionary, at least that is what we started out at. The longer we were at it, the more turned on I became. I mean at first I was turned on by the idea of doing him, but then the physical part of it turned me on and I had a surprise orgasm. Anyway, I guess that we had sex for at least 3 hours. I don’t particularly care for doggie, but I let him do me that way because I knew that he’d tell his brother and that would piss him off.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Of course, he went home and told his brother, as I expected.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Revenge / Getting even
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My girlfriends thought that it was the perfect revenge considering all of the cheating that he did on me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I made my ex feel like the piece of shit that he is.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I didn’t use condoms. I had my tubes tied after my third child, but while I thought that Bill was a virgin, I had these thought that he might be hanging with skanks.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I married Butch when I was 16. I still managed to have a baby, finish high school, have 2 more children and work full time. I was stupid in love with him and he was my only partner.
Once we were divorced, I was on my own with 3 daughters.
After I fucked his brother, I sort of tore loose. Men say that they shouldn’t buy the house without checking it out, I realized that I wasn’t going to get stuck with someone without finding out what they are like. I’ve been married for 14 years now with a very good man and am very happy.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? That it opened my eyes.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have enjoyed many men, and I think that I’ve sown all of my wild oats and settled down. Mainly, I’d like to see the way society looks at women change. They should have the same freedom of having partners like men and not be judged for it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it
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