Reversed Roles?

by Doer

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Banker
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Reversed Roles?

How long ago did this hookup happen? June 2018

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a very short and petite woman. We met the week before at a party. She was cute, but I didn’t plan on seeing her again after that party.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went to a bar with some friends and one of my friends invited her to come with us. Later in the night, near last call, I noticed that she was being harassed by a drunk guy. I handled the situation with the guy by contacting the manager who I knew. After we left the bar, she and I were on my couch talking and she told me that I helped her a lot at the bar. I hadn’t realized that I had done anything significant.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started with fingering, and I was surprised to learn that she was a squirter. We eventually had sex in a few positions. I really enjoy sex, but I generally have issues ejaculating. It often takes a marathon unless I know the person more intimately.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We woke up and lay in bed for a few hours. I gave her a ride to her home. I think we went to a party that next day actually.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She and I are very close friends now. We haven’t had sex since, but it really made us closer as friends.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She has a lot of personal issues. Being close to her because of the hookup opened my eyes to them. It’s just one more thing on the plate to think about. Worrying about a close friend.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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