What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NC
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? CPA
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? first one
Roommate’s FWB Because BF Was Too Drunk
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a guy my roommate Jen regularly hooked-up with. I’ll call him Steve. He’s 25, muscular, tan, jet black hair that’s perfectly styled, & hot to look at.
I was in my second year of college and answered an ad for an apartment. That’s how I met Jen. We got along great. She smoked pot and hooked-up with different guys and girls regularly.
I’d been dating my BF for 2 years and he’s the only guy I’ve had sex with.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My BF was driving up to visit for the weekend. A friend of Steve’s was having a party and Jen invited us and we went. Steve took my BF to a theater room to watch a ballgame and do whiskey shots. Jen took me to a gazebo out back and us girls smoked pot. After an hour, I was super relaxed when Jen and I started kissing. We’d kissed before but this time we were into each other. She slid her soft hand up my dress, along my thigh and started fingering me. She started slowly with one finger and then she went to two fingers and moved fast. I was so horny, my panties were wet and I couldn’t wait to have sex with my BF. Jen suggested we find the guys and leave. We went inside and Steve was watching TV and my BF was passed out. Steve said he would help and Jen requested an Uber. I went to the bathroom and ditched my cheap cotton panties because they were too wet. Jen told me there wasn’t anyone that could take 4 at the same time so she requested two cars.
Steve went with my BF, and Jen and I took the other car. Jen said, “I hate that your boyfriend drove all the way up here to fuck and he’s out. Looks like you’ll be hooking up with Steve later.” I was shocked and said, “I don’t think so. My boyfriend will wake up soon.” Jen laughed and said, “While you were in the bathroom. Steve told me your boyfriend took some pills with whiskey shots. I hate to tell you, but he’ll be out till tomorrow. I’m tired. I plan to take the couch when we get home. You can fuck Steve. He already fucked me today which is good for you, he’ll last longer.” I was still high, but I knew what was going on. Steve’s hot and I wanted to do something fun for a change. We were close to the apartment so I asked, “What if he won’t?” Jen said, “Trust me he will. When he first met you he asked about your status and he’s always talking about your sexy ass. Your boyfriend will never find out.” She added, “If your worried, tell Steve to use a condom I have plenty in my room.” The driver pulled in and Jen said, “Decision time girl. What’ll you want to do.” Steve was carrying my BF to the door. I said, “I’ll do it.” Steve put my BF on my bed and I shut the door. Jen covered up with a blanket on the couch and said, “Have fun. You know were everything is.” We went to her bedroom and shut the door.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We removed our clothes and he was already hard. He put on a condom and I laid on the bed. He started on top. He went in with one smooth thrust. We did a few positions and he’d been fingering my butt the entire time. I was face down on the bed and I felt him attempting anal. Normally, I would object but I was still relaxed from the pot. I told him he could take the condom off as long as he stayed in my butt. He got a bottle of lube from Jen’s toy drawer, drenched himself and squirted some in me. I used my hands to open my cheeks. He started out slow then sped up. I was beginning to enjoy it when I felt him finish. He gave my butt a soft smack. We told each other we had a great time and agreed to do it again soon. I took a hot shower then got into bed with my BF.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, Steve woke up early and left. Jen went ‘shopping’ so I could have some ‘alone time’ with my BF, but he woke up around noon with a bad headache. I acted like I was upset and he felt bad for being asleep so long. My BF wanted to have sex before he left but he couldn’t get hard. I tried giving him oral but nothing. He left that afternoon.
Jen decided to go on a 3 month European tour when the lease was up. I didn’t want the lease so I moved to a new place. I’m friends with both on social media, but that’s the only contact.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Jen. She was cool with it and told me I should hook-up with him again.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I was cheating on my long time BF.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? First time I’d done anal.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My BF couldn’t get hard the next day. I felt sorry for him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Having sex with someone you know is fun. I know it would hurt my BF’s feelings so Jen, Steve and I have agreed to keep it between us.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Steve and I hooked-up a few more times. Mostly booty calls. Anal only and no condom.
My boyfriend drove up to visit the next month. This time he refused to drink or take any pill and we finally had sex. I’ve never told my BF and we’re still together.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Once I tried it, it was nice having casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good idea.
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