After the Sauna, Against a Telephone Pole



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Artist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 36
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

After the sauna, against a telephone pole

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had never met this woman before. We were attending a party of a mutual friend and were introduced there. I noticed her, but only in passing as hooking up wasn’t on my mind as I was in a relationship.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The party progressed into the evening at a country home. A sauna was on the agenda and many of us got naked and sweaty. It was all very innocent nudity with lots of laughing and the silliness that can come from getting so overheated. Myself and C, my partner to be, and another woman took several naked trips across the lawn to a cold dunk tank. Again, I was only noticing her in passing and wasn’t especially attracted to her. There was much laughing but I chalked it up the alcohol and weed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As the evening wore down and people left we all got dressed and ready to leave. I am quite sure my underwear was stuffed in my back pocket. Through no plan, both C and I made our way out the dirt driveway at the same time to our cars parked along the dirt country lane. We joked and made some small talk. As we passed her car and I was saying my good night she grabbed me, pulled me close and gave me a very hot open mouthed kiss. This lead to more kissing and then some more against her car. She dropped to her knees and said, “I will suck your cock if you promise to fuck me.” Simple as that. I was totally surprised and, being in a near sexless relationship at the time, in no mood to say no. The blowjob was hot and the thrill of the possibility of some else from the party coming across us made it even hotter. And a little worrisome too. It had been a while since I had done ANYTHING with another person and I felt my orgasm building. I suggested we stop and asked where she thought we should fuck as her car was close to the driveway of the home we had just left. She grabbed a condom and my hand and we crossed the dirt road and headed up an embankment to a telephone pole. She pulled her leggings down and put both hands against the pole. I stood behind her and after putting the condom on entered her from behind. It felt wild to be basically fucking her in the woods like this, standing up beside the road. The other notable thing about her was her vaginal control. She could grasp my penis like a hand and move her pussy in waves. It was amazing and too much, and after stopping a couple times so as to not cum too quickly I passed the point of no return and came. But it was an orgasm where you wish you weren’t cumming yet and wasn’t quite as good as I would have liked. She was a bit disappointed as well. I was just stunned that it had happen.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We dressed and said our goodbyes. She lamented her lack of orgasm and the long drive ahead of her, but fairly light heartedly. I contacted her via Facebook but by then she had done some homework and realized I wasn’t single. She admonished me for fucking her but I didn’t feel very guilty as she was definitely the sexual aggressor. I took it as a random and totally unexpected thing that I enjoyed very much.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sheer randomness and immediacy. 0 to 100 in a matter of minutes. Very sexually liberating.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it only happened once, that and it made me realize how un-fufilled I was sexually otherwise.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me realize that truly sexual woman are not a myth!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It can be fun with a partner on the same page, but there is always the possibility for feelings to develop.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? LOVE IT.

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