What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Designer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fluid?
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? <20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Sex in a Car with a Co-Worker
How long ago did this hookup happen? About 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my co-worker at the paint/decorating store where I worked as a consultant/designer. I’ll call her Sarah. She was 20, loud, bit of a spaz, but the most fun to work with and my favorite person at the store. We worked the evening shift just the two of us for several months in a row and got to know each other really well, and bond in the way 2 people who don’t love their jobs will bond. She was cute, really small with a petite body but a nice, round ass, and curly hair (she’s half Filipina/half black).
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was a really slow build up as I basically was a witness to Sarah’s first ever relationship with another woman. One night, a customer (a little older than me, a little masculine, hot) was talking to Sarah for a really long time, like almost an hour. Later that night, Sarah told me that the woman had asked her out and Sarah gave her her number, even though she had never had any experience of any kind with a woman. I was surprised but not all that much because she was a very spontaneous, unpredictable person (I had heard MANY of her crazy hook-up stories at this point). Over the course of the next month I got the play-by-play of Sarah’s first date with this woman, her thoughts on dating a woman for the first time, their first kiss, until one night she came to work looking quite dazed because (no surprise) she and her lady friend had hooked up earlier that day. I got all the details of course, and hearing Sarah describe going down on a woman for the first time, and what it was like making a woman come, reminded me of hooking up with some of my friends years earlier, and got me quite turned on to the idea again. Anyway, as the days went by, she would talk about her sex life, and I would talk to her about my experiences with other women, we started to flirt a little more (always did a bit!) and rating other women who came into the store…Our chemistry started getting really intense. One night, I offered to drive her home, and as soon as she got into my van, it happened.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were parked in the lot behind the strip mall where our store is, so it was very dark and empty. As I shut the door and the lights went out she put her hand on my leg and I immediately leaned in to kiss her. We kissed without saying anything for some time, then she asked if I wanted to get into the back seat with her. I forget what I said, or if I said anything, but we climbed into the back seat, which I leaned back as far as it would go, and she lied on top of me as we kissed and I undid her bra under her shirt. I had one hand on her tits and one on her ass, and her body felt so nice after years without being with women. She got next to me and we undid each other’s pants as we made out, and started fingering each other’s clits. She got my shirt off and started sucking my tits and I just laid back as she finger-fucked me and went back and forth between kissing me and licking and sucking my tits until I came. She told me it felt so nice to make me come after being friends for so long, and after cuddling for a little while I returned the favor. I took her pants all the way off and she sat on my lap as I fingered her, and she told me I could play with her ass if she wanted, so with my other hand I fingered her asshole, and she came pretty soon after that. After a little more cuddling and kissing we got dressed and I drove her home.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I dropped her off and she kissed me goodbye. I felt in a daze because it had been so long since I had fucked a woman, but I was also worried because it was really late and I didn’t know what to tell my boyfriend (who I live with). I told him I was getting a drink with Sarah and I just drove around with the windows open to get any smells out, then had one drink at a bar and went home. Everything was fine, but that was really stressful. The next day Sarah and I agreed it was nice but that it was a one-time thing because I was in a long-term relationship and she was still with her new girlfriend (though not for much longer). A while later I got a new job and after drinks with my co-workers, Sarah and I hooked up again, in her apartment this time, and I actually got to eat her pussy, which was nice, but that was the last time we did that, because she told me she was losing interest in sex with women.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, to this day, which is why I’m posting it here. My friends would be surprised and concerned that I was cheating, and I don’t want my boyfriend to find out.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t like cheating.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex, after so much time picturing it and wanting it, was amazing, and the second time with her was nice as well.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating, and the stress of hiding it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I feel myself wanting women more now, even though I don’t intend to leave my boyfriend. I might tell him, someday, but I don’t think he’s the “threesome” or “open” type.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Overall I think it was worth it. I felt good after and thinking about it still turns me on, and makes me feel sexy and confident.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I had some casual sex in college but it was all in the past. I enjoyed it at the time. I think it’s totally normal.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love the stories!
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