What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Recruitment consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
Sexually Frustrated Nurse
How long ago did this hookup happen? Early 2014
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? On a boozy night with work colleagues we stopped in to a bar that we knew served good food.
We noticed a group of girls by the bar, they looked over a lot at us, we knew they were up for it.
Ended up with 2 of the girls and one of my colleagues and went off to another late night venue.
I preferred the other girl but this one was keen. Blonde, decent body. She was pretty wasted which made her a little unattractive.
My colleague left and I was left with the 2 girls. The conversation turned to sex and she told me she hadn’t done it for a year. I didn’t really know what to say.
She instigated it soon after, kissing me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We hooked up a bit in the bar. The girls decided it was time to go. The other one walked with us and left us at her place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At her’s she went to the bathroom and I went to her room. I took all my clothes off and waited for her. She came back with a skimpy nightgown and panties which I took off immediately. She had shaved her pussy. I fingered her (realising I had no condoms) and she made some sexy lady-grunts. She got really wet and came. She then fell asleep without doing anything for me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I got dressed, she was a bit upset that I chose to leave but I couldn’t feel bad as she did nothing for me.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Shouldn’t have fooled around on my gf
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fun to get naked and see a new pussy
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She wasn’t into getting me off
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it is great. I have had a few one night stands and it has always been good. New experiences and something fun and different. You sometimes have nothing in common bar a need for a good fuck.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting to hear stories of such a wide myriad of people. I like the detailed ones.
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