What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Mental Health
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
She Found Me Alone!
How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a lot taller than me. We met at the bar next to my dormitory a few days before and she really made a mental attachment but I was unsure if I felt the same.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was a Friday happy hour and the dorm I was a resident assistant in was empty as we were all at “The Fort .” The group of girls came in and she was with them. I was apprehensive about talking to her because we only met a few days before in psychology class but she gave me a cute smile so I felt compelled. After an hour of talk, a few shots, and some Foosball it was time to vacate the bar and go to the dining hall for dinner. The girls stayed but ad I was leaving I got a little kiss on the cheek. The rest of the guys were making fun of me because they referred to her as the Amazon Woman. I brushed their comments aside and went on to dinner. Since I had dorm duty that night my chance for going out for a hookup was shot. After active duty I retired to my 3rd floor room, made aome popcorn and waited for all hell to break loose when all the drinks returned from the bars. As things quieted down, there was a knock on my door. I opened it up and there she stood all 6’3″ of her with a big smile on her face. All she said is “I’m glad I found you, can I come in. Of course being in a supportive role as an RA we were obligated to talk to anyone on campus any time of the day. I think ahe had been planning this since we met and when she put her mind to it I suddenly felt….she gets her way!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She came into my room and stated that she knows others make rude comments about her because of her height and large bone status. She then took off her coat so I could see her long sensuous legs were exposed below her mini skirt. She said that with her extremely long legs she could wrap me up like no other woman had before. She then slid the skirt to the floor and said “if that is okay with you!” My cock sprang to attention and she was so careful to suck it gently enough to give me great pleasure, but not enough to make me cum. She said she wanted it inside of her! I expected a bushy tangle around her pussy but to my surprise she said she shaved herself that day in preparation for what she was going to be doing with me. After putting on some Phil Collins she was ready for some awesome love-making. For being such a big (not fat) woman, she was so gentle and loving it made me even more excited. As she neared her orgasm her voice picked up and her screams of ecstasy made me orgasm. Since it was late and there weren’t classes the next day, she spent the night with me which lead to another love-making session the next morning, and another before brunch. She was an awesome lover for the rest of the semester as our meetings were always in secret (the way we both wanted) The funny thing was is the other guys in the dorm still made comments but every time they did I would look at them with a big smile and say….”You never know” when in all actuality….I did!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day we continued our lust for each other and continued sexual encounters for the rest of the semester and right up to graduation day. Since she had another year of college left we grew apart but reunion weekend gave us a chance for one more escapade.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Several of my closest friends in the dorm knew but she was not wanting to be openly involved and in my position as a caretaker for other students I didn’t want it to become a distraction to my duties or studies.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It allowed me to experience a lover that was somewhat shunned by other guys and in my own little way have some of the most exciting sexual encounters of my life.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Since we kept it quiet to most of the people around us we didn’t share intimacy when we went out except for pecks on the cheek.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It did at the time, but after a long marriage, I still look back at those days and smile about the relationship we had, and how we mutually met each others needs in such a secrative manner.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It kind of is like the ugly duck story but she was was beautiful both inside and out, plus she knew how to please a man!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Just being recently divorsed I am reading more about it as being with the same woman for 28 years has left me wondering these days……what will sex be like with different women?
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Nice way to get ideas on how to set these encounters up.
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