From Singing Songs to Sex in a Car



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Studying
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

From singing songs to sex in a car

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A boy, 28 years old, caucasian with brown hair. We met that specific day at an activity of our study association which involved a lot of alcohol. At first glance, I thought he was quite handsome and cute. We stood next to each other at the beercantus and we had a lot of fun

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After the beercantus ended, we went outside to have a smoke and a chat. We learned more about each others’ background. While the party inside continued we stayed outside, talking more and more. I felt we were attracted to each other. We looked each other in the eyes when he leaned in for a kiss. And so the hookup began.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After kissing for a while, we noticed everyone at the party went to sleep (it was like 4 am in the morning). Since we did not have a private bedroom to ourselves, we had to find a place to continue the hookup. He mentioned he had a car so we went to it. While in the car, we started kissing again. We became more and more searing and the first pieces of clothes ended upon the floor of the car. He was gentle and rough at the same time. I climbed on top of him and rode him until we both finished. It was very satisfying. Afterwards we kissed a bit, put our clothes on, went back inside and kissed each other goodnight. Then we went to bed separately.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We saw each other the next day, somewhat hangover and we just had a little chat, nothing special. We both knew it was just a one night stand without any further expectations for the future. I sometimes see him right now, but only in a casual setting. We did not have another hookup but we are friendly to each other.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my friends. They thought it was a funny story and were totally not judging.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? To have sex in a car, which I did not have before

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The car was quite small, so it was a little clumsy

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had casual sex several times and I feel like people, in general, should not be so judgmental. Everyone has urges and if you’re not in a relationship you should be able to have sex with the people you feel attracted to. Of course, you have to be careful with who and how many you have sex

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome initiative!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!