Sober One-Night Stand



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? ECE
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sober one night stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 5 years older than me. He had a hat on and wore it well. He also had an accent which was very cute. We met while I was at the bar, but I was sober as I was out chatting with people about sexual health for work. I thought he was cute and he thought it was funny that I work at a sexual health clinic.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began in my car. Since I was not drinking, we went for a drive when we left the bar. He asked me to kiss him and then we started touching. I would say that he instigated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral and vaginal took place. It was a little difficult to manoeuvre in my car but we made it work. We got some laughs out of it too, which was kind of nice. I felt great during the sex, we were having fun and enjoying each other. After we finished having sex, he was very nice. We chatted and got to know each other more before I dropped him off.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I felt great. I was satisfied with what happened and i thought about him a lot. He is from another city so I do hope that one day we see each other again, but I wouldn’t be surprised if we didn’t. I feel good about him, I liked him a lot.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my friends, some thought it was cute and funny. Others thought it was a little weird.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sharing that night with a new person who I really liked.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The uncomfortable car sex positions

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It did in some ways, it was a sober hookup on a night where I didn’t expect to do anything like that. It was very spontaneous

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have always enjoyed casual sex. I have had sex with 16 people and of those 16 people, only 3 of them were someone that I was in a relationship with. I find something very appealing about casual sex. I like to experience different people. I would like there to be less judgement of people who engage in casual sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great and I am happy to contribute a story!

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