Sorta Knew Her, Then Boom

by cds

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 50
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Music Industry
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 150
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sorta Knew Her, Then Boom

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is about 30, very cute, thin. I had known her for several years and had actually went on a brief date once. It didn’t go anywhere and we were just aquaintances. I had moved away and was back visiting where she lived.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I ran into her at a show and she texted me later that evening telling me she’d love to connect sometime. I was at a different bar and told her, “How about now?”. She came right over and we were all over each other. We left the bar and headed to where I was staying within 20 minutes.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We stopped and made out on the street a couple times on the way to her car, then in the parking garage we were on an elevator…she stopped it and we went at each other. I had her against the elevator wall and one of her legs was hiked up on the railing. She got off very quickly from me rubbing her pussy. When we got to my place, we were naked within minutes. I went down on her five or six times and penetrated her several times. I was having a hard time getting off because I was pretty buzzed. I finallly did though. She came a half dozen or more times. We actually broke the bed…

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We have stayed in touch and will probably see each other again. It was fantastic sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Seeing how passionate she was….I didn’t expect it. She loved the oral sex and I loved giving it.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Breaking the bed in my friend house.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s fine if everyone is into it without hidden agendas.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!