Spinster Breaks 10 Year Cold Spell



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? united states
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Financial Analysst
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Spinster Breaks 10 Year Cold Spell

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was a wedding guest at niece wedding. I was put at the “single table” with non attached and he was a manager at my nieces company. He was Middle East Moslem from Algeria. He introduced self as Mousad. Algeria is in Africa but mostly French so dark, some African French ancestry. Well groomed and educated.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was 1000 miles from home by self. I am a single mother of 40 and my girls just entered college so have spent past 20 years raising kids. Divorced in 1999, hardly had a kiss. I am fit with short black hair but not online so no males pursuing and so busy I did not care. I thought this would be an opportunity to mingle. I drank red and white wine and got too drunk as I hardly drink. The music played and I asked mousad to dance and stayed on floor, kicked off shoes and danced barefoot to macrena and other songs. Very buzzed

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Room was in same hotel as reception so walked upstairs with Mousad and thought we could make out. Went into room and took off dress came out in slip, bra, panties. Mousad was on the pullout bed shirtless under blanket and I thought may be naked. I sat in chair and joked, “you must be confident”. He laughed and we watched “the crown” and he patted bed and said, “why don’t you come here”. I walked over and he raised blanket and sure enough, he was naked with uncut, decent sized dick light brown. I sat down under blanket and thought “why not”. I started stroking dick and balls. After a few minutes got curious and opened blanked. Getting hard and a pink head was popping out..I said, “what have we here”(buzzed) and looked closely. I asked, “do you want me to..,?”

He said, “please”. I slid down between his legs and started kissing his balls, then the slit, then opened mouth and slid up and down the shaft. After 2 min tops, I felt a warm stream and knew he had cum without warning. When I said, “why didn’t you warn me?” it caused me to swallow most and I washed it down with wine(first time swallow). He said sorry and we laid down together. A few hours later I was woken up with him reaching around under panties and stimulating me and it was good. I came from that and he said, “want to have sex?” (he did not swear). I said yes and slipped off panties and he kneeled in bed so I could lube him with hand wash(from hotel). He was 7 inches. He then entered me and lasted 20 min and 2 more orgasms. We both collapsed after and he said, “you should take off your bra”. I forgot and it was even dirtier being bottomless but covered on top. I did and he sucked them a few minutes

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? he then told me he had a confession, he was to be married to a Muslim girl in 2 weeks and he wanted to experience sex before marriage and get his penis sucked, neither of which happen to Muslims. He though I was up for it with my uninhibited barefoot dancing. I did not know what to think but he probably thought I was inhibited sex goddess which is so far from the truth. Since it was my room he showered ( I walked in but nothing happened, just watched him ) and he left and thanked me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one and I wonder if my niece will find out.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? It is so out of character for me to have oral and regular sex upon meeting someone. In 40 years not even close and I am not experienced as my marriage was not that sexual.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? many new experiences, one night stand, naked with man, non white penis, uncircumcised penis, swallow semen so know these things possible. Before this I had done none of these.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? that he knew he was to be married and did not say

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I know these acts I did will not harm me and may allow me to meet more people without fear of not being able to satisfy sexually

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I feel I took 20 years off in the prime of my life and want to be with many men with the goal of finding the right one

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