Sports Bar Pickup

by Just Judy

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 4

Sports bar pickup

How long ago did this hookup happen? About a month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I sat down next to Tom at a random sports bar while I was traveling for work. I was there on my own, bored by my hotel room, and really wasn’t looking for anything. Truth be told, I’d already had one random hookup on that trip (the subject of a different post) and didn’t want to be greedy.

Tom was nice looking, probably mid 30s, average height and build, sarcastic smile. It was raining when I got to the bar, and my wet umbrella brushed against him when I climbed into the seat. He was watching soccer, I was watching basketball. We chatted a bit off and on. I thought he was cute and funny. I made a comment about never getting hit on at bars, and he replied, “You mean until now?” I asked if he was hitting on me (genuine question, I can never tell). When he said yes, the mood changed like something might actually happen.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We flirted for a few hours over drinks and then it was suddenly time to leave. We paid our checks and went toward the door. His place was close by, but my hotel was around the corner and I was more comfortable there, so we walked to the hotel hand in hand.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to the hotel and we both went at each other. We were naked on the bed before he stopped and let me know he didn’t have any condoms. I told him I had some, and got them from my bag. He looked like a kid on Christmas.

I don’t actually remember all the positions we used, but Tom was definitely decent in bed. He was recently separated and I got the sense he hadn’t had sex for a while, and definitely not casual sex with a stranger, so he was enthusiastic and appreciative. We didn’t talk much except to direct each other as to what we wanted. It was good, cathartic.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We finished and hung out on the bed for a little bit. I offered to let him stay in case he wanted round 2 in the morning, but he wanted to go home, so I had a great night of sleep instead.

The next day, I realized that I didn’t actually know his name. I did know the name off the company where he worked, so I did a few minutes of research trying to track him down. Then I decided that I didn’t actually care, so I let it goo.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, I was feeling lonely, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Spontaneity, relief of traveling boredom and loneliness

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing really. It was raining that day so my hair was frizzy. 🙂

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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