Study Abroad Shindy



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Advertising
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Study Abroad Shindy

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last summer

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My friend and I were on a weekend trip in Rome during our study abroad. We befriended this kind British couple while out to eat and ran into them again later in the evening after they had met up with their other British friends (two men).

One looked like Rob Delaney and the other was a buff ginger man, both were very cute. Originally I thought they were together.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? They ended up convincing all of us to go to a disco tech in town. We all hopped in a cab and decided to let the driver choose our destination.

The next thing I knew we were all dancing and the one who looked like Rob Delaney was making out with my friend, so I decided to go with the other one.

The exact details are a bit hazy. I remember taking tequila shots and then we started making out. Knowing myself, I instigated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? My friend, the Rob look-alike, and the couple left the bar. The redhead and I (not sure who decided this) decided it would be a good idea to have sex in someone’s garden. We hopped this tall fence and got down and dirty in someone’s yard.

The next thing I know we were in a cab in his way back to his and Rob’s hotel room. When we got there, my friend was asleep in the bed and Rob was sitting on a chair. The redhead and I continued to fuck in the bathroom. I remember it being pretty good sex.

I woke up the next morning in the middle of the red head and Rob, with my friend looking for our clothes.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Rob tried to start things with me which makes me wonder what happened the night before (I completely blacked out after the bathroom) but my friend found my clothes and we ran away.

We laugh about it now. Both men were really nice, but I don’t even know my partner’s name.

It was a very fun one-night stand to say the least.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Everyone else was/is doing it, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told a couple friends. They laugh mostly since my friend and I were together.

A lot of them think we had an orgy but I’m positive we didn’t.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was British. And, it was wild.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I don’t even know his name. I also wish we would have used protection.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. It was a fun time.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I like casual sex. I’ve had a lot of partners. Some I know better than others.

The only thing I would like to see changed is that we as people, myself included, need to be better about safe sex. I am also to blame for this, but so many times I let men stick it in me without a condom. A lot of the times I am drunk or trust this partner (after having sex with them before) but it’s dangerous. Unfortunately I think it just takes a wake up call to start practicing safe sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I really like it. It’s interesting to read others’ stories and know I am not alone.

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