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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York City
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Heteroflexible
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Three Weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was celebrating my birthday earlier night, and after ending my birthday party at my apartment, I moved on to another party uptown. Around 2am I made my way back home via subway. I was 2 stops away from home when one of my friends who was with me started messing with this guy who was sitting from across for us, saying things like “Oh my god, I haven’t seen you in forever! How’ve you been?” He played along and found her amusing. I was pretty tipsy at this point, and when I checked him out more, I noticed how gorgeous he was. He was gorgeous, older, about late 20s. 6’2″, fit, short blonde hair, blue eyes, amazing cheekbones and face in general. He was wearing jeans that hugged his legs perfectly, a nice shirt and jacket, but not too nice. He had a bad boy vibe to him, and a skateboard under his seat.
I walked across the subway car and sat next to him. My friend moved back to the other side. Fuelled by liquid courage, I started asking him about his evening, where he was coming from, where he was going. I asked him if he was single, to which he replied “Yes” and then then I said “You’re really cute.” He looked at me and said “You’re really cute too.” I then asked for his number and stored it in my phone.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? What I didn’t know was that he was getting off at the same stop as I was, the last stop. My two friends had to walk separate ways. He told me he was supposed to meet a friend for drinks, but that friend wasn’t texting him back. Since it was late, he said he was going to walk me home because I lived very close to the subway stop. We walked and talked a little more. As soon as we got to my place, we started making out downstairs outside my building. He said, “I don’t think I’m going to get that drink with my friend,” to which I said, “No you’re not. Wanna come upstairs?”
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got upstairs, and had to be quiet because my roommate was home. I left him in my room to go to the bathroom. When I came back, my dress was already unzipped and I straddled him immediately. He was an amazing kisser. I asked him how old he was. He said “30,” and I laughed and told him I just turned 20. We started hooking up. Oral first, for me and for him. He was hard already. I liked that. He was even hotter when he was unclothed. Then teased me by sliding my dress off and then licking my nipples before he fingered me and made me squirt for only the second time in my entire life. He was really good with his hands. We grabbed a condom and started having sex. First with me on top, then doggy style, and I don’t even remember all the other naughty stuff we got up to. He was complimenting my body the entire time. What a gentleman.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We fell asleep after the hookup. In the morning, I woke up a few hours before he did, and proceeded to stalk him on social media (Who doesn’t nowadays???). I found out that he has a baby! I freaked out but did not talk to him about it. I thought it was more entertaining than anything.
When he woke up, we talked about ourselves and life for more than an hour. We really got along! He seemed like a really genuine and kind person. He recapped the night to me and it was hilarious. He especially liked how my dress was already unzipped when I came in. It was like a reverse date.
When he left, he told me to text him if I had a free moment. I have since, but our schedules have conflicted thus far. I would love to hook up with him again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends who were on the subway with me. They were very proud of me because he was so attractive.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that I picked up a gorgeous man from the train at 2:30am and had sex with him immediately. Something to tell your grandchildren about.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it hasn’t happened again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? If desire leads you, you should trust it. Don’t wait for satisfaction.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like to see less stigma attached to obtaining carnal pleasure from those you might not be seriously dating. Sex is sex sometimes, nothing more.
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