What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 53
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Dublin
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Software Developer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Don’t know, maybe more than 100
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her at a friends party. She was slim and nice looking. My friend said she liked me and we got on well the couple of times when we met. She was actually 10 years older than me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After sitting and chatting with her at a party, I took her hand and asked her if she would like to spend the night with me. She said yes.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had sex in many different positions during the night including oral both ways. It was great. We slept very little. We had sex seven times in total, I think.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We chatted in the morning. She wanted more than the one night but I didn’t. We had different views on some things which would not be great for a long term relationship. But the sex was great and she was a lovely girl. I’d love to meet her again and repeat that night! I often wonder about many girls in my past. I wish them all well. (All but one actually!)
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend who hosted the party!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Great sex with a lovely, slim, well presented kind and sexy girl!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that she wanted to take it further but I didn’t left a little sadness.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. Other than the fact that I wish I could have got more of it during my life. They say quantity has a quality all of its own!!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We met one other time a few weeks later. She wanted to ‘use’ me sexually. I agree of course. 🙂 It made her feel happier about the one night stand somehow.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Viewing casual sex as bad is just a bad left-over attitude from the Victorians. If we didn’t need to have sex to procreate, the government would make it illegal to do, just like drugs and most other forms of serious enjoyment.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Strange. But I’ve enjoyed contributing.
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