What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Taiwanese Tinder date
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was on vacation in Taiwan. As I was a bit bored and my friend was at work during daytime, I was on Tinder. I didn’t actually plan a hookup but I was a bit curious about the dating culture. He was extraordinarily attractive. He was a firefighter, just came back from a surfing trip in the US and we get along with each other pretty well.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He picked me up and drove me to his hometown 15 min from Taipei. He showed me some traditional Taiwanese food, then we went to the beach. We swam a bit, then we climbed on a small rock in the water. We sit next to each other and then we started kissing. His lips tasted like salt. After a while we went back to his car and he drove us to his place. It was a bit awkward as he lived with his family so I met his mom and his grandma (who were really nice though, his mom brought us some fresh and delicious mango). After that we went into his room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As I was on my period, we couldn’t have sex so I gave him a blow job. I enjoyed playing with him and not letting him orgasm till I wanted him to (this really turned him on). I felt good during it and afterwards we were lying next to each other and talking aboutt random stuff.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After it I needed to get back to Taipei so he brought me to the bus station and we said goodbye. Though he was extremely nice and respectful I feared that he might treat me badly or disrespect me because of having casual sex. As we live 10,000 km away from each other it was clear that we don’t have any expectations beyond this vacation. I still remember it as a positive experience though I wish I was more relaxed about it back then.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked about it to my roommates and friends, they reacted positively.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I couldn’t ask for more from a hookup, it was a really nice experience.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Meeting his family was a bit awkward for me but they seemed to be ok with it. I was anxious because after a couple of bad experiences with hooking up I expected him to treat me disrespectfully, especially as I didn’t know a lot about his culture. But actually this experience made me realize these things and work on it so it had a positive impact on me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was very positive as I addressed my own problems and trust issues towards men.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great project though one should not forget that there is a strong bias and that people tend to share their positive experience more than the negative
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