The Artist

by S

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Artist

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2011

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Somewhat physically attractive, nice lips and face but was balding. Good muscular body. I liked his chill attitude more than anything else.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A gig. I got talking to another guy somehow and he was that guy’s friend. No planning involved. We had an interesting conversation, he was a glass artist. He lived in a trendy part of town and invited me to his place. I lived in the suburbs and wanted to see the house so I said yes. I wasn’t expecting sex but wouldn’t have said no either! He was fun.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I gave him a blowjob, and he fingered me. Vaginal sex on his couch, me on top. It was all super comfortable. His housemate walked in in the middle of it but the dude sent him away on a walk which I found amusing. I normally would have been a bit embarrassed but I knew I wouldn’t see this dude again so didn’t care.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had to get up really early to go to work the next day. Felt good. Another one on my notch. He wanted to meet me again but I ghosted him. Have him on Facebook though.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. I don’t brag.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I could say I fucked an artist.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. He was a good sport.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Less judgment from people. It is what it is! Let people be.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.

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