The Berjaya Affair

by Mairin

Gender: Female
Age: 36
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Current location: Manila
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Operations Manager
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Roman Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The Berjaya Affair

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2011

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Patrick was 6’1, white and American. He had a shaved head, green Irish eyes and a barbed wire tattoo on his left arm. I didnt know what he looked like prior to meeting him. I had only read his personal on Craigslist and that he wanted to hook up with an Asian BBW (Big Beautiful Woman).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had been single and celibate for 3 years at that time. I consider myself a very sexual person and I hated that I was wasting all these years not having sex. This was in my early 30s. I was so done with the party scene and I was really challenged with meeting new people since my life just revolved around work, family and the friends that I already have. I read somewhere that some people actually hook up either by posting an ad or going through Craigslist personals. Right now I don’t even recall which one I did. All I recall is that we exchanged numbers and we were texting. He sent me a message one Friday afternoon that I was on leave from work. (Talk about perfect timing) I was just about to head home after having coffee with a friend. He was in town and staying in a hotel that was conveniently on my way home.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When he opened the door of his hotel room, he took one look at me, pulled me inside and started kissing me. One look at him and I thought myself lucky that it wasn’t an old geezer that opened the door. We were the same age and he was just my type. I had never felt so wanted with the way that he kissed me. I felt like a tall drink of water to a man stranded in the desert. That really turned me on. Then he started pulling down my tube dress to admire and fondle my 40Ds. He played with them and sucked on them and I didnt realize he had already done away with the rest of my clothes. He went down on me and spent a lot of time eating pussy and using his fingers. I called him dirty names and he gave me my first orgasm. Then we went for it–missionary, rear entry, me on top. He asked if Ive tried anal and I said never. I gave him permission to try. I was excited when he used his finger. It felt really good. Too bad I was not ready for an 8 incher so he stopped and I appreciated that.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I would say that experience was satisfying for the both of us since we still talk about it 3 years later. He still remembers a lot of details that sometimes I suspect that there was a video.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We made sure to use condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was horny and I needed to get off. Plain and simple. I had been celibate for 3 years before that and I never learned how to masturbate and actually satisfy myself.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were both very sober.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were both very satisfied with the hook up. We didnt cuddle, which was fine. I wasnt much of a cuddler then, but we were able to talk animatedly in between rounds. We talked about travel, got to know each other, pretty much 1st date conversation while sitting cross legged and naked in the middle of the bed. I didnt feel the need to be modest with him and to me that was great. He talked about hooking up in the future and I pretty much went along with it, not expecting anything. After round 2, we said our goodbyes and expected never to hear from him again. I was wrong though. We exchanged emails sporadically and he would still recall things we did and stuff that he wanted to do again the next time he’s in town. In fairness to Patrick, he followed through. A year later he called me to say he was in town. He wanted to hook up but I had a boyfriend at that time so I turned him down. A couple of months ago I emailed him to say that I had broken up with my boyfriend and I was free if ever he was in town. He replied promptly to say that he was back in the States but would be back before 2014 ends.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked about it with my friends who I know are also liberated and non judgmental. They said we needed more lube. Haha.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, 100% I would say.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. I actually enjoyed this one.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best about this was that I lost all my inhibitions and it allowed me to come to terms with the fact that I was indeed sexual, and yes I can be sexual and not feel like a whore. The worst part was the timing. I had a boyfriend when he booty called me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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