The Disappointment



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

The Disappointment

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? On a break

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? What he looked like? In a word, heavenly. Or… perfect. Perfect height, about a foot taller than me (so maybe 6’3.) Perfect body. Perfect smile. Even had a great voice and scent. Didn’t know him before. Just met him at a party.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it?  I really really needed to get laid so I went to a party Sturday night and in all honesty was just looking for someone to fuck. Danced with a few but eventually chose We talked a little and he seemed very sweet, and he was insanely attractive so I was looking forward to it. He was a little too touchy even at the party though. Normally I would be pissed if a guy tried to grab my ass 20 minutes after first talking to me but he was so hot I let him get away with it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After about half an hour we went upstairs and thankfully found a room, cause at that point I would have just fucked in front of everyone. Inside, I quickly stripped and we started making out again, and he kissed his way down my body until his head was between my legs. It was amazing and soon I was begging for him to enter me. Instead he started fingering me. Too hard. I was wet af but it was still uncomfortable, idk what the fuck he was doing. He didn’t stop even after I asked him to be more gentle.

Eventually I had to take charge, and pushed down his pants. Aaand I couldn’t hide my disappointment. Idk why I always think height translates to length and girth… because its not always the case and certainly wasn’t with this guy. But whatever, I thought. Size isn’t everything (that’s what they say anyway.) Partly to return the favor for oral and partly cause I wanted him to stop fingering me I pushed him back and took him in my mouth. Now here’s where things got really weird, cause only after about a minute he came. Now I’m not a quitter, so I usually swallow, but I confess I was surprised as fuck and spit that shit out. I mean… for one, I haven’t had that happen to me since grade 9-10, and two, how are you that hot but haven’t learnt to survive a minute in a girl’s mouth?

Obviously the situation was awkward, and he apologized. He eventually asked if we could try again, and I have to give him this, he got hard again pretty quickly. That time he did penetrate me but it turned out he didnt know how to use the little thing that well, and no matter what position I moved him to, I just couldn’t enjoy it. He didn’t even last that long the second time, and came inside me after 5 or 10 minutes..

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up at 5AM to go home and get ready for Church. I didn’t wake him up or give him my number. He goes to my university so I might see him, but I haven’t yet.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only close friends. They all knew to stay away from this guy after what I told them.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? It wasn’t satisfying, I increased my number for no reason and wasted a night I could have spent with someone else.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How hot he was.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The awkwardness. I think he realized I was disappointed.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Sometimes casual sex can be pretty bad as this shows. You don’t know much about your partner so you have to expect a possibility of disappointment or even danger. In my case it was thankfully just the former.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve been having casual sex for a while and probably will continue to do so until I get married. I hate the double standard people have for women and casual sex. I think it’s just a fun experience we make too big of a deal about.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its a great project!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!