The Drummer

by RedLady

Gender: Female
Age: 25
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Religious affiliation: Secular humanist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

drummerThe Drummer

How long ago did this hookup happen? About a year ago?

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went with a few friends in my department to go see a band play. It’s hard to tell if it was the pot we smoked before hand or just the shear novelty of the show they put on, but it was absolutely magical. I was entranced by every little piece of their performance, especially by the band’s good looking drummer, pouring so much energy into his performance. He looked to be as entranced as I was, but his entrancement was realized in a fierce physical form, his whole body aggressively beating the crap out those drums to set the beat that everyone in that room was living by in that very instance. At the end of the show, I went up to him to introduce myself. We only had a couple minutes to chat; a lot of people seemed to be demanding his attention. I left the show that night with very little information about him, but apparently it was enough. The next day I decided to post on Craigslist Missed Connections, because why the hell not? I mentioned a couple of the things we had chatted about and I said “Your energy as a drummer was orgasmic. If your energy could be applied to fucking me…. I would be pleased.” He responded 😉

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As it turned out that same orgasmic energy I saw in him during his performance could be applied to fucking me, and was applied to fucking me. As promised, I was pleased.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a polyurethane condom. (I’m allergic to latex). Also, I don’t recall, but there’s a good chance I was on an oral contraceptive too as I typically like to have a second form of birth control.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was exhilarating

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? For the actual hookup, we did have a couple drinks and smoke a little pot first.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He left my house that morning after a night of great sex and I said “Goodbye! It was nice meeting you!” He doesn’t live in the area, so it was definitely a one-time thing. I never spoke to him again afterwards. This was fine by me – I just wanted to feel his energy in a very real way for one amazing night. Had we continued, it would have only lost its excitement, so I prefer remembering it this way. I’m very happy to have had this experience – it was exactly what I wanted.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just a few friends. They really liked my Craigslist post. 🙂 A few people in my department also came across this Craigslist post and knew me well enough to figure out that it was me. One of them said “If you’re going to post something like that, I’d have expected you to be smart enough to not let people be able to figure out it was you.” I responded “I don’t care if people know it was me.” Of course, my friendship with this guy runs on crude remarks to each other, so this was a perfectly normal interaction for us and not a source of conflict. He was just teasing. It would have only been identifiable to people who know me anyway, so I wasn’t worried.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Absolutely.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No way.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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