What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourne
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10-15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’d matched with this guy on a dating app, and we’d both established that we were using the app for casual sex. He seemed relatively attractive and his bio said he was really tall, so I was pretty keen. I hadn’t had any form of sexual activity for over a year and a half, so I was really in the mindset of needing to have a one time fling with someone.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We decided to meet up for coffee during the day. I thought he was nice and easy to talk to, but I definitely didn’t expect to have sex with him that day. He paid for the coffee and suggested we go check out the beach nearby as it has a great view of the city. As we were hanging out at the beach he leaned over and made out with me and invited me over to his place nearby to “meet his dogs”.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to his house and went straight to the bedroom, he made some small talk about the books in his room and put some chill music on. We were making out on his bed for less than 5 minutes before we started undressing each other, he started it off by taking off my jeans and fingering me. I was already wet so he put a condom on and we started fucking very quickly in missionary, doggy style, then with me on top for a bit. I was feeling good, his penis was a good size, but it was kind of robotic – I had no feelings for this guy so it wasn’t fantastic. Halfway through I gave him a blowjob and he finished in about 30 minutes.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards, we didn’t say much, we talked for a bit and then he drove me back to my car. It wasn’t until after that I realized I’d been used by a fuckboy – all of his charm from earlier had disappeared. I was still happy that I’d broken my drought and thought about texting him the next day, but decided against it because he seemed like a bit of a dick and the sex was pretty average in the end. Neither of us has messaged the other, and I don’t think we will ever see each other again, but I am ok with that.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy/convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told quite a few of my friends as they knew I was on the dating app, and they were supportive of me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Finally broke my drought and felt really sexy during the hookup.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt pretty used afterwards, some of his comments in the car after made me feel bad about myself.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m not sure if one-time hookups are for me, I definitely think sex is better when you have a proper connection with the partner, but it was also just a bit of fun.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m not too mad at myself for getting fucked over by a fuckboy, at least I didn’t have any feelings that could’ve ended up hurting me later on.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think I’d prefer casual sex to be with a fuck buddy (or a few fuck buddies) that you can get to know each other and have better sex. I’m keen to try more.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it. I love reading the stories especially the ones I can relate to. I think sex is so important to talk about, it’s a shame that’s it’s such a taboo topic.
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