What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Pittsburgh
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Hotel Room
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The day before it happened, he approached me on a dating app. We struck up a casual conversation, then it turned sexual pretty quickly as he was looking for some fun — he was only in town for the weekend to visit his family. White, did not put his age up on his profile but it was easy to assume he was in his 30s, 6ft tall, in shape, a couple tattoos. I did not ask for his name.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? For some reason, he initially did not want to give out his phone number but after I insisted, he gave in. The day after we chatted, he messaged me that he could have me over at his hotel at around 4. I texted him once I got there, just to make sure I was at the right place and I would not have troubles coming up to his room. He greeted me at the door.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After some casual conversational exchanges, he told me he had not done this very often before. I was fine with that, and we started making out. His stubble facial hair hurt my lips a bit. We just kept on kissing, then I went down to give him a blowjob. He then proceeded to do the same thing to me after a bit, then we 69’d. I told him beforehand I was not comfortable with anal intercourse, so we also did some frottage — rubbing our genitals against each other while we were humping. He was really nice and gentle; I even laughed once or twice when we were doing it. He came on top of me when we were doing frottage; I didn’t but the overall experience was great.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Not a lot. We put on our clothes, engage in some slightly awkward small talk then got on our way. He texted me later saying thanks and apologizing for being nervous, which I found a bit puzzling since he actually seemed very experienced.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I don’t generally talk about this with others.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I like doing frottage, so it was nice to find someone who also shared this interest with me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I know I said I did not care to ask for his age, but it would’ve been nice if he had told me without me asking.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I know this is a cliche in the gay community, but I want to be a more sexual human being by trying different things with different people. I was very sexually reserved before I started college, so it was nice to let myself out in the world and have an orgasm every once in a while. Sex could mean a lot of things, but in my situation, sex just means sex and I am very at peace with it — as long as it is safe.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I come from a country where views on sexuality is still very much conservative, but as society moves forward and people are more willing to discuss sexual matters, I have come to embrace myself and been more accepting me for what I am. I did not have any problems with casual sex before I became sexually active, and I certainly do not have a problem with it now. As long as both parties are being safe and no one gets hurt, either emotionally or physically? Go, get out there and have fun.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is very interesting to read stories posted by many different types of people and their encounters, as it opens up a lot my perspective on how society is viewing and treating casual sex.
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