What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Perfect (35 Hours) Romance
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago (June 2015)
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was visiting a friend of mine in Bilbao, Spain. He was DJ-ing at a party that I went to on my own, since he was dj-ing and some others friends didn’t want ot come along. I met Ally on the dance floor, making funny moves and feeling instantly attracted to her. She had a very interesting glasses, casual clothes style, not too girlish or attention crawing, just having a good time with some of her female friends. We met outside and she asked me for cigarette that we then shared together. I don’t speak Spanish at all but her English was pretty good. We talked about nothing serious, just sharing random thoughts but there was connection right away. After some more dancing we went to another club, danced some more, etc. I had my phone stolen, but didn’t freak out on it. At 5 AM she needed to take the train home, since she was working the next day. She said, I could stay with her friends but I told her, that I will bring her to the station and want to spend as much time with her as possible.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We finally kissed at the station and she missed 2 trains home. I just kissed her as I couldn’t resist anymore. She pretty much agreed and it was beautiful. I tried to make her take me home with her, but she said, that’s not possible. Since I lost my phone, I was not able to call the guy I was sleeping over at, to open the door, Surprinsingly she knew him, walked me to the flat, called him, I got in and she finally took a train home (must have benn around 7.30am by then). While that we were making out a lot. I stated my intention to have sex very clearly but she refused.
Next day I pick her up after work and we spend the evening together, having some beers, chilling at various spots, talking a lot, making out… I don’t know, we both felt very secured with one another, I’ve never had this before. I smiled every time I looked at her. She finally took me home with her (she was living with her mum and she informed her mum, that she was bringing someone this night).
At her place, she led some incense and candles in her room, put on some music and we shared a cup of tea together. I thought that was really nice. She said, she likes to calm down sometimes and make things slow. The effect was, we were both totally relaxed when we went to business.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started kissing very slowly but passionate. I went down on her and she came after a while, then I put on a condom and we had some wild sex, starting in missionary, she riding me, spooning and doggy. I had quite a few beers that night so I didn’t come, but she came another time. She really worked on my cock with hand- and blowjob afterwards to make cum, but it didn’t happen and I was really done for the night.
Next morning we had sex again, even wilder than the night before and I had a huge orgasm. I must have looked really happy and she gave me a huge smile after I came. We then had a shower together and some sex again, with no one having an orgasm.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I invited her for breakfast in the city since she had to work again that afternoon. I had to leave for Germany, so we said each other goodbye. I was fucking sad. If I had met her in Germany, this would have turned out to be a relationship, I’m sure. The time we spent together was just perfect. The connection was perfect and I like to spent thoughts on her every now and then. We chat on Facebook from time to time – I want to visit her again, but she is hesitant, because she fears the magic is gone (at least it’s what she tells me…). I would love to see her again, not sure if it will happen.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some friends of mine. I said I fell in love a bit and one male friend made fun of me for that (but not being an ass). I corrected myself and said I have crush.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The connection we had was just perfect. Besides making out a lot, we talked a lot as well, politics, literature, music, our future, etc.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Her living in Spain and me having to leave for Germany.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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