The Spy Who Shagged Me

by Nougat

Gender: female
Age: 22
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Occupation: med student
Relationship status: single
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Spy Who Shagged Me

How long ago did this hookup happen? within the week

How would you best classify this hookup? ONS but I hoped it would’ve been a fuck buddy thing

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Good half a foot taller than I (I’m 165cm tall). Didn’t know him at all before some days ago. Met him at a club. Typical guy picking up girls at a club, but he was tall (quite rare where I come from) and also very, VERY hot, so I thought I’d entertain him. If he hadn’t looked so attractive I would’ve ignored him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were talking at the club then we started kissing. He was kind of… making me trust him. Saying he’s a serious guy and whatnot and had a serious relationship. I couldn’t care less. We went back to his place. I was having second thoughts about going with him (I had never gone out of a club with a stranger), but I went with it anyway because I hadn’t had sex in two years and JUST HAD TO.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hookup however I decided I didn’t want to have sex (yet). I told him. He said he didn’t want to do anything I didn’t want to do. We had oral sex though. We laid in bed after, spooning. We were talking politics, his job, my school, the whole israel-gaza conflict. He said he’s glad I’m not some dumb girl like the girls his roommates take home. Was getting late so I said I had to go home. He asked why I couldn’t stay I said I have school the next day (I didn’t). He got me a cab and gave me money to pay for it. We met again some days after had lunch then a quickie because he was going to have a meeting.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? First time: Yes and yes. Me once, him twice.
Second time: I didn’t have one but he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condom.  No

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to have sex. He was attractive

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we had sex he said he’ll call me after the meeting, but I never heard from him again.
I was hoping we could be fuck buddies but I guess I was just kind of a one night stand/booty call (booty call since he didn’t get to fuck me the first night so had to keep contact until he could fuck me).

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My guy best friend. He said he didn’t think I was the type to hook up with strangers, but no judgment (or so he says). We then proceeded to getting under the influence of marijuana and he wouldn’t stop flirting with me. So much so that I had to call him out.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing of course is having sex. And also maybe a little self validation because at least someone wants to have sex with me (I’m not ugly or anything. I’m pretty normal looking). Worst thing is expectations. Was expecting better sex. I used to think of casual sex as something negative, but it’s not at all. People can do what-/whomever they want as long as both parties agree. I will definitely have casual sex again. And yes, that was the first time I had casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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