Tinder Date/Hookup

by avam

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Vienna, Austria
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Tinder Date/Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? three weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him from Tinder, so I didn’t know him well, but from our conversation he seemed normal. He was tall, with a really cute face, short blond curly hair, sporty and casually well dressed and I thought maybe a bit out of my league. I had no unusual feelings about him before the hookup, I had no big expectations or anything but hoped he won’t be creepy.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It begin as a normal date, we went for drinks, had fun, had okay conversation, ate ice cream, fooled around, walked through the city and then to his place. No planning was involved, things just turned out this way, and we both wanted to hook up.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was respectful and gentle and communication was good so we knew what the other wanted. He went down on me, I went down on him, and we had vaginal intercourse. I felt good during it, he was a good lover. After it we had small talk, I slept there, I went down on him in the morning, we had a short intercourse but neither of us came. We had breakfast, he came with me to the metrostation we kissed and that was it.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was like maybe we could meet, he said he’d write me and I hoped he would because it was really fun, and I thought we could do it another time too.  Then, I texted him.  He replied very shortly and neutrally and then blocked me on WhatsApp, which was weird and felt bad and rude, as I only asked, “What’s up?” Now it’s just a good memory of a pretty good night, but no other feelings – I’m just a bit annoyed because of the blocking thing,which sucks.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Best friend who was happy for me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I felt really confident and chill with him, I didn’t feel I had to pretend, and felt no pressure to do anything I didn’t want, and we were on the same level as people, so as equals.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That he blocked me on whatsapp and that maybe he was just an asshole even if he seemed nice.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I feel more confident about myself, as at the beginning I felt he was out of my league , but with time I just didn’t care and enjoyed myself and the date. I think I learned I have to try not to take it too seriously when it seems at hookups as the other person likes me, because I can never know what they really think, and then I just get hurt at the end, so I try to keep more emotional distance during hookups.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is really good and shouldn’t be seen as bad or unresponsible. I think there is still a stigma on casual sex, which makes me feel sometimes I am doing something wrong or something like that, even if I know it’s not wrong and I can do whatever I want and feels good for me.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I find the Casual Sex Project really good, because it gives an insight of what is happening with others and that many have similar stories and shows many different experiences which shows how different people are in their sexual lives.

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