What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Bartender
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 7
How long ago did this hookup happen? Several months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was somebody I had met that weekend while traveling throughout Southeast Asia. He was around the same age as me with a beard and was pretty cute. He worked at the hostel I was staying at. I thought he was funny and really nice.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began one night at the hostel bar when everybody was drinking. I was traveling alone, and since he worked there, he made sure I was surrounded by other workers and travelers which was really nice. After some drinks, we started talking more and more and it eventually led to kissing. We were both into it, but I’d say he instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We eventually left the main area to go somewhere private. We made out for a while, and I told him that we should stop because I was in a relationship with somebody from home. We stopped for a while and talked about my unhappy relationship but eventually began kissing again. He slipped his hand under my dress and panties then began fingering me; he went down on me after a little while and I gave him a handjob. It was really hot because he was very good and made me feel wanted. I had never hooked up with a random guy before. It ended when we noticed the sun coming up because it was very late/very early morning.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, I went up to my room and went to sleep. I didn’t see him the next day until the evening and I was leaving that night. We were hanging out with a big group of people and we weren’t chatting that much because I felt a little awkward. He eventually messaged me and asked if I was okay about everything and I said I was, just guilty for cheating. He came and sat by me and we talked until I had to leave. He gave me a hug goodbye. I have no expectations for the future. I feel indifferent towards him, he was a nice guy but I’ll never see him again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t regret doing it but just that I was seeing somebody else at the same time.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It made me realize I needed to get out of my relationship
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was cheating
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is great if both parties are consenting and understand the dynamics of the hookup/friends with benefits. I haven’t been single for very long so I don’t have much experience with casual sex yet. I think men having casual sex is more accepted in society and I’d like that to change. Women need it too, guys!!!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great!
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