What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Montreal
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Marketing
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? N/a
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? “Tina” is a really adorable Asian girl with a punky vibe. She has tattoos up her arms and on her sexy flat stomach and she has blue streaks in her hair. She liked to show a lot of skin. She was 23 and I was 28. I met her at a house party thrown by some mutual friends, and I thought I caught her looking at me all night, but I was drunk and not as sure of myself then as I am now. Then in a group conversation she told everyone that she had just started having sex with women and loved it. This is when I learned two things: she did want me, and she liked to advertise her sexuality.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I snuck up next to her while she was talking to someone else on a couch in the house’s living room. After a few minutes, she realized I was there and gave me serious fuck-me eyes, and asked why it took me so long to find her. After some really brief talk, she asked if I wanted to fuck her and instead of answering I just kissed her.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were kissing on the couch for a while when she took my hand and put it on her pussy. I broke away and asked her if she wanted to find a room somewhere. She told me she wanted me to fuck her in front of everyone there. I wasn’t sure and just kept kissing her, but she kept moving my hand back onto her pussy. Eventually, my libido took over and I undid her shorts and started fingering her right there. People started to notice and we got the comments and cheers you would expect, but nothing too crazy. It seemed to really turn her on because she got so much wetter as people started to notice. She whispered in my ear that she wanted me to go down on her and before I could answer she had her shorts off and was totally bottomless in front of everyone there. I was nervous but so into her at this point that I got on my knees and started licking her while I could hear people gathering around us. It felt so strange to be having sex in front of people I knew, but luckily my friend group is pretty open-minded and there was nobody around to take anything too far. As I ate her pussy my hands drifted up to her tits and I realized she had undone her shirt and she was almost totally naked. Eventually, she came very loudly and I finally came up for air, to the cheers of everyone around. She was super dazed like she had just had the best sex of her life. After the audience died down she asked me if I still wanted to find a room and of course I did. We took it to a bedroom where I was happy to get naked and she was happy to go down on me until I came. We made out until the sun came up and then fingered each other until we both came again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I kissed her goodbye and took a cab home. I got so many comments and texts from friends asking if I was okay and what the hell happened, but it all died down pretty quickly and I ended up feeling like it was just one of those things. She and I started hooking up, of course, and even sort of dated for a few months, but I think her sex drive is too high for monogamy. She also cheated on me with more than one person. It hurt at the time, but I got over it quickly because it was never that serious, and we’re friends now.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Making new friends, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Well hard to avoid talking about it. Like I said, my closest friends were surprised and a little concerned at first, but it all went away.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Giving into the moment and trying something crazy wound up making me very horny. Plus she is still one of the hottest people I’ve ever fucked.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to answer questions and act like it was more meaningful than it really was.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I realize what I’m capable of, although I haven’t had “public” sex since then. I love casual sex; always have.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nope.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Love it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.
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