Trying Something New

by Toni

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Insurance adjustor
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Trying Something New

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s in his mid-40s, is very muscular, hot to look at, and is very flirty. Both of our jobs are located in a strip mall, and he’s a recruiter for a temp agency next door.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’ve known him for over a year, and he’s always been forward and flirty. When times are slow at work, we IM each other. He constantly hints that we should hook-up. On Saturday, I had to go in and send documents for a client to the main office. It was around noon, and he locking his door. He came inside my office to talk while I sent a few emails. I finished within a few minutes and was ready to leave. He invited me to his place for lunch. I didn’t have any other plans, so I agreed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I followed him to his house. I kissed him first. He grabbed my butt and kissed me back. I jumped up on him, and he carried me to the bedroom as we kissed. We removed our clothes and he got on top. He felt good entering me. We had sex for a long time and then I left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We see each other during the week, and we still IM. We both agreed it was just sex. He wants to hook-up again, but we haven’t yet. I told him I would like to have a sex-only relationship with him, and he has made it clear that he’s willing.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My BFF. She thought it sounded exciting and if I was happy, she was happy.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having non-commitment sex with an attractive guy. He is really good too.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was cheating at the time.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and he’s the only guy I’ve been with until now. He tells me he’s serious about “us,” but he’s reluctant to give me a ring or show signs about getting more serious.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Something led me to have this experience and I’m glad I did.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Nice.

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