What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Unexpected College One Night Stand
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? There are two guys involved. I will call them A and B. I have always had a crush on A and I know him from college. I do not know B until that night. A is a good-looking, smart guy who is not particularly muscular. B is more of the sexy type, with hairy legs and so forth (I can’t be the only one who gets turned on by guys’ body hairs!?)
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I, A and a bunch of his friends including B went drinking at a bar. It was quite normal at first – we were all chatting away about school stuff, random gossip etc. I have had a drink before meeting with them and had several drinks including shots at the bar with them so I got quite drunk – my alcohol tolerance was pretty low. To be frank, I had no idea it was a group thing as I thought it was only me and A, but I went along with it as I thought it was great to have a bunch of people to prevent things getting awkward. Anyway, fast forward a few hours, it was past midnight, everyone drank quite a lot. I sat beside A. I was never a slutty person by any means, perhaps it was the alcohol, but I made a move and put my leg on A’s leg. At the same time, I felt B glancing at me now and then. I had no interest in B that time so I did not pay regard to that. After some time A left the table to use the bathroom, and B snuggled up beside me and wrapped his arm around me. I was slightly grossed out (since I had no interest in him whatsoever) but did not do anything because I was pretty damn wasted and he didn’t touch me anywhere else etc. When we left the bar it was like 4am. I could hardly walk property and grabbed A’s arm to gain balance. And then out of the blue me and A kissed – I was caught by surprise and he groped me at the same time in front of all his friends.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We took a cab to a friend’s home nearby. Me and A got to share a bed and B was on another bed. When the lights were off, me and A immediately started making out on the bed. We basically tore off each other’s clothes and kissed with a lot of tongue action, thick with lust. At the same time, I was nervous as I did not know what this would lead to. I was a virgin that time. I saw A’s cock turn hard and he started grinding his cock against my pussy. It made me so wet and horny and I was moaning and gasping. A proceeded to slide his fingers inside my pussy and fingered the crap outta me. I so wanted him to fuck me that time but I did not ask him to because I was not sure whether I wanted to lose my virginity like that. I was also scared that it would make me look like an absolute slut since it was supposed to be our first date. He asked me to suck his dick but for some inexplicable reason I refused (thinking back, it was probably because I had no idea how to do it and I did not want to embarrass myself). So we kept on grinding on each other and I also played with his cock with my hand but he did not cum. His cock was not as huge as I expected but who am I to judge?
As for B, it turned out that he was somehow interested in me (at least his drunk self was). So when the opportunity came, B leapt onto the bed I was lying on and he laid on top of me. He was quite heavy (certainty heavier than me) so I couldn’t move. He tried to kiss me, his breath heavy with alcohol, but I tried my best to evade the kisses. He also tried to slip his one hand under my tshirt to grab my boobs and the other hand into my panties. I repeatedly demanded him to back off but he just pressed on. He gave up after some time.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, A and me had a talk about the night and we admitted having feelings for each other. I could not look B in the eye after what happened. I thought me and A were going to date but it didn’t happen. I was pretty upset about that as I actually liked A, but at the same time I was very glad I did not give my virginity to A or else I would regret it so much. I have bumped into A and B a few times at school and basically we just pretended that we did not know each other. But the weirdest thing is that I often thought about B after this (we remained strangers after the encounter) and I somehow hoped that something happened between me and B that night – after all he was quite sexy and it was only meant to be fun.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told two of my best friends. Surprisingly they did not judge me for what happened and one of them felt sad for me that A and I didn’t work out.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I didn’t exactly regret the hookup per se, but I wish I could make the fullest out of the opportunity.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sexual tension and the novelty of the situation
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That A and I did not date or really meet up afterwards so basically it was a one night stand
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Funnily, I felt so lonely when I had A’s naked body on top of mine and all I could think about was my ex whom I’ve loved for years and still love (but he probably has no idea as we both moved on with other people).
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was the craziest night of my life though I was not fucked by anyone strictly speaking. Also, A and B, if you happen to be reading this, we have to catch up – just send me a Facebook message and pretend you have not read this if you wish.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s okay as long as the people involved are single and they do not get emotionally tangled up because of the experience
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome! Thank you for letting me share this with people who probably feel me. None of my friends (except those who know) would even IMAGINE something close happening to me as I am generally known as a good girl (no partying or late nights at all etc)
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