Unplanned Encounter



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? N/A
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Unplanned Encounter

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a little older than I was. At the time I was 19 and he was in his 30s. We had not hooked up before. We chatted a little on Grindr. He was married to a guy of 2 years and they were only interested in playing together. I thought they were alright.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was horny, so I messaged him on Snapchat asking if he and his man were both available for a threesome. He quickly responded back that his husband was at work until later today. I knew they wouldn’t play together so I simply responded “bummer”. He then sent me a dick pic telling me to “cum over”. I asked if his husband made it back and he told me that he didn’t need to know. So I quickly showered and drove down to the house.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It all happened in a whirlwind. There were no words whenever I walked in. We made out for a good 10-15 minutes before the clothes came off. I sucked his dick for a little bit and then he flipped me over and ate my ass. This went on for about 5 more minutes and then he slid it in. I hadn’t been fucked for a while so it hurt at first because he didn’t ease into it. However, the pain turned into pleasure and we both soon got into it. I climbed on top and rode him until we got close. He pulled out and shot his load all over my face, then I followed by shooting all over me. We talked a little about it afterward but haven’t hooked up since. His husband still doesn’t know.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now?

I chatted with him a little bit afterward and we both agreed that next time his man would be involved. I felt a little ashamed that I participated in an affair, but I didn’t feel that much guilt for very long. I have kept in contact with them and we still want to plan a threesome. However, he has still expressed interest in hooking up with me again on the side.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it, It was easy/convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The thrill of knowing we could be caught at any time.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that we had to do it behind his back.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? N/A

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? N/A

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? N/A

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it

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