Went Further Than Planned



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Went Further Than Planned

How long ago did this hookup happen? Three months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a nice looking Latino man I had met at the bar. He was about 5’8″ with dark hair and was very well dressed.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had talked with my husband about my fantasy to hook up with a stranger at a bar or club. He said he was okay with it as long as it stayed there and that we stuck to hand stuff.

I was out for a drink with several girlfriends. After a couple of drinks, we decided to dance for a bit. Then, the gentleman came over and started dancing with me. He was a great dancer. We continued on a little longer than my friends who went to sit back down. I was getting a bit turned on, so I turned my back to him, and he put his arms around my stomach. Being a small 34A, I rarely wear a bra, so I took his hand and moved it up to my chest until he felt my hard nipple. We enjoyed several moments until I told him I needed to check on my friends. But I told him I would find him later.

After another while, I excused myself to the restroom. My panties were so wet from earlier, so I took them off and put them in my purse.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I found the gentleman hanging around with his buddies. When he saw me walk by, he followed me to a table against the wall. We sat next to each other on the bench seat. I leaned in and kissed him. He rubbed his hand gently again over my nipples before dropping down to my thighs. His hand kneaded my thigh for a few minutes as he slowly moved higher. As his hand brushed my pussy, I briefly squeezed his fingers between my thighs, gave him a deep kiss, and open my legs to let him know to proceed. He rubbed my wet slit and pushed inside.

After a few, he pulled his hands out and motioned for me to come closer. I straddled over him and sat on his lap with his hands on my chest. I could feel his hard cock through his pants. I was so horny, and I reached down to unzip his pants. I rubbed my pussy on it and without another thought, I reached down and pushed him inside me. He was so worked up he came almost instantly.

I crawled off. He put himself back together, gave me another kiss, and we parted ways.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Great. I get super horny every time I remember the experience.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my husband that I got felt up, nothing more. He gets horny thinking about it, and next time, he wants to be there to watch.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I took the experience further than I wanted to at that moment.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It fulfilled my stranger fantasy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I worry about STI’s and having to keep some of it secret from my husband.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish it was generally accepted.

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