What Happened?



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Austria
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

What Happened?

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 Weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have seen him before but we never talked. I did not know his name before that day. I thought he was very attractive and I was definitely interested in him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a party and we were both pretty drunk. Somehow we ended up talking to each other and he got me a drink. We started making out a little bit and at some point, I said that I needed to figure out how I was going to get home. He said that I could just stay at his house.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out and getting undressed in his room. He then went to his sister’s room to get a condom (embarrassing as fuck). I would say the sex itself was ok. It was just vaginal but we kissed and touched each other a lot.
Since I was drunk I do not really know exactly what happened but I think he came and I did not. He felt bad about that and tried to do something about it but at some point, I just fell asleep.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day we woke up, and there was just this tension between us. We both didn’t know if we should kiss each other or not, but I think we both wanted to. We cuddled a lot and held hands and stuff. He took me home shortly before midday.
I didn’t really think about it anymore until I met him at another party the next weekend. He wasn’t drinking but I was a little bit drunk again. We talked for a while and we also made out a little bit but he had do go home early.
He did message me the next day on Facebook but stopped replying because he was getting drunk at night and hasn’t texted me back since. So whatever :’)

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends. They knew that I was going home with him and one friend of mine wanted to stop me because he doesn’t like him but it is not a big gossip topic or anything.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? For giving away the impression that I am easy.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting to meet him and he is a damn good kisser.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The situation now.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I do not have a problem with it. What bothers me is that if a guy has casual sex he is seen as “cool” but if a girls does it she is seen as an easy hoe.

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