When The Giving Does Not Expect The Receiving

by Visual

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 46
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Senior Management
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Spiritual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

When The Giving Does Not Expect The Receiving

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years back

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I just met her that night in a bar in downtown Frisco- She was alone maybe ditched by her date and was downing a few single malts – she looked 50 plus, very smooth skin, smiling face, dimples, round lips, 38d cups i could see the outline in her tight white top that fitted her like a goddess.. she had some real exotic jewellery that she was wearing and she was smelling so good… I went across to her table and said with a smile, “Why don’t I just take you home and worship you?” She just smiled and pointed to the chair opposite to her – I took it with a huge sense of relief – I wanted to just be with this woman

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I just ordered some more drinks – she switched from sitting uptight to an easy relaxed position and started a conversation which leads to one of the most intense sexual encounters that I have had. The conversation was very sexual but not the ones that make you just hard but takes you to a high and brings you back to being just hard… Oh man one thing lead to another and more drinks- she asked me if I wanted to join her outside for a smoke… I said I want to but just suck my finger before we go out…. I put my thick thumb to her lips – she took it and started to slurp on it like she was doing to a dick…Man did I get hard. There were a few people in the bar looking at me in envy.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went out and I took out a pack of my usual cigarettes. She suggested that since she has some good hash, we should split the joint. Just after the last toke, she took my hand and made me feel her wet mound, right there in the biting cold and I was feeling the heat of a sexy woman’s mound. I slowly kissed her neck and said, “Let’s go someplace private.” She asks what’s wrong with here so we continue to kiss. She whispered in my ear “When the giving does not expect the receiving, magic happens.” Trust me, it was sheer magic.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were in the bar for another 3 hours and each of our smoke sessions showed a different sexual side to each of us. At one point, she was biting my ears and rubbing my dick through my trousers at the same time. She was moaning like a woman who was completely free and is all set to take the flight to Venus. I suggested we move to my hotel room. Once there, we smoked, drank, and explored each other’s bodies without focusing on the orgasm.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, this is the first recount of that experience

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The whole thing. I have not had anything close to it even though I tried to repeat that with other partners. I guess nothing is replicable. The experience opened my eyes about what can happen if we go with zero expectations and spontaneous. The magic was what she whispered in my ear – no pressure to perform, no pressure to please anyone – just two consensual adults pleasuring each other and thereby creating the pleasure energy that built to a crescendo that just drowned them in ecstasy that no drug could offer.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? This one experience could never be repeated however hard I tried – I did contact that goddess to see if she can join me some time but she decided we should not see each other again.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, big time lessons. Being patient and not looking for immediate gratification.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This woman was a married woman and her husband knows that she has the freedom to have fun with any one of her choice – I did ask her would she share this rendezvous with her husband. She replied what happened here is our memory and he does not need to know. I wanted to share this cause there are a lot of misconceptions about sex post marriage and cheating etc. This woman knew what she wanted and gave all that she had and made a rather egoistic man realize what this life-giving sexual energy should be.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I guess sex is the most liberating experience for any individual after food and drink!!! Food and drink overindulgence are okay by most societies and sex is also the most misunderstood and abused facets of life. It”s not about the number of times the man can make the woman come or how quickly the man could get hard again for round 2 – the whole act needs to flow like a river and in the end, the river joins the ocean and becomes one with it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Guess it is one of the most interesting projects for humanity – I wish these guys could do podcasts from people in general as well.

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