1st Hook Up

by Roni

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

1st Hook Up

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? No hookup

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He had a nice smile and was average looking. He was a work colleague I had met in a work capacity just twice a year over last 3 years. I knew he had a nice personality but I had not considered him a potential partner.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? 3 months ago at a work event that involved a fair amount of drinking and chatting I sat next to him. I invited him back to my hotel room at the venue for some coffee.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After short spell of chatting, it led to kissing and fondling. After a 3 hour period he left as we both agreed we needed to sleep in our own rooms. My partner was affectionate but also sensitive to the situation.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had a short opportunity to meet and talk but it felt a little awkward but we agreed neither of us felt bad about booking up as we hadn’t had sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? 4 best friends all of which did not judge; 3 were particularly supportive

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was fun because it was secret & I felt wanted & not taken advantage of

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt I may have missed out if the opportunity for sex with a possible friend

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I’ve become a lot more open to the possibility of casual sex & my sexuality

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s considered for women as possibly being promiscuous but should not be. I don’t know how to change people’s perception on that

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great idea & way yo share experiences

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!