Casual Sex Has Changed My Life



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Project Development
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Multiorgasmic
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? +70
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Casual Sex Has Changed My Life

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Since my husband left me 5 years ago I’ve been casual dating many guys. I now know many things that would have useful at the time I first met him, and maybe just not marry him.
Casual sex allows you to know better the other gender but also, and mostly, helps you know yourself, your boundaries, and provides a lot of confidence and self esteem.
Everybody should do casual sex during a time. I learn a lot

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Fun! so many stories where I had the fun of my life!
Keeping in contact with many partners who become sometimes good friends.
I will, maybe, if I feel it (need to be felt), share some of those stories here

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Nothing strange, a bit of fantasy, great spontaneity and let the communication flow. But most of all, let yourself go! be there, enjoy the movement. Forget your mind and feel the pleasure.
I am, no; I have become multiorgasmic. I’m not saying this because I can have 3 orgasms. No, but because I usually have between 10 and 20 orgasms in one round. It depends a lot on the man, he needs to be in shape 😉 and be a good lover but it depends mostly on me, on my mood.
These last years I have learned a lot, I know when a man is good in bed, there’s always a smile, a look and a touch in those men that says: I love women! those are good lovers, believe me.
I have made mistakes, of course. I will tell those stories too.
Stressed, anxious, scared…those are not good orgasms makers. But when the communication flows easily…it just flows and becomes a natural pure sexual attraction.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Next day I always feel great. After sex I’m so relaxed! My brain is enlightened with marvelous hormones that make me feel so good! I just sleep like a baby. So next day I feel great!
I let a message always next day, even if most of the times I have already received one from most of them
No expectations next days, but I do see a lot of them several times. Only the best matches, best chemistry.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I don’t share these stories with anyone. If I start writing them here, this will be the first time.
Some friends know that I do casual sex and they ask me who are the moment ones, but I don’t get into details with them.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Casual sex has changed my life. I was living in a pitiful relationship sexless, of less than 10 times a year!
My God! How did I do it? or better, why did I let this happen? for 14 years…
It’s not that I want to have now what I didn’t during those years, but it is true that I don’t have a lot of time of being a seductive woman.
I have amazing sex with different men, for most of them, the most amazing sex ever. For the others, the chemistry wasn’t there, the communication did not flow.

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Regarding men, I must thank my lovers.
you will recognize him as a well chosen adult, straight, older than 40 (some young ones have surprised me lately) who takes care of himself and his image, has impeccable manners, well educated, intelligent and with a sense of humor.
I must say that you men have surprised me a lot, sexually speaking, since before I got married and now. Of course, those men will recognize themselves in this description :
You are great lovers! you know how to give pleasure and you love doing it, you enjoy giving sexual pleasure as much and receiving it. You are great sexual partners and intimate friends with who I enjoy a lot being and of course fucking.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t think there’s nothing to change in society. We have never been this free!
So I appreciate my freedom, I don’t care about people sayings, and those I care of don’t judge me.
Casual sex has never been this easy, fun and tolerated.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I would like to see some articles, statistics, sexual or dating advise, a forum? maybe…

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!