What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Florida
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Frisky At This Office
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? No hookup
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Daniel is a guy I met on a dating app. We have been out a couple of times. He is half-Southern, half-Greek. He is tall with pretty eyes and very symmetrical teeth. We made out on our first date and got a bit frisky on the subsequent dates.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Since it was 4th of July, our plan was to go view some fireworks in the evening. We ended up having a 3rd wheel for most of the days so we just chit chatted for a while. We were finally ready to watch the fireworks when it started raining. We quickly caught an Uber back to his office building parking deck where both our cars were. Before heading to my car, he said he needed to visit the bathroom. While in the building, he asked if I wanted some coffee. We went up to his office for him to make us some coffee. While waiting on the Keurig, he started making out with me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were heavily kissing, I was running my hands in his hair, he was grabbing my ass, and we would pause to kiss on each other’s necks. At one point, he gently pushed me against the wall and flipped me around so I was facing away from him. He proceeded to grope my tits and grind his hard-on against me. We ended up stopping and grading back to his cubicle to cool off. However the chemistry was hard to resist. At one point, I startled him on his office chair while he fingered me. Since we didn’t have a condom on hand, we ended things there.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He walked me to my car. Since there were people next to my car, we didn’t really say anything else. Since I haven’t been with a lot of different guys (was married for more than 10+ years) I am not ready to sleep with a guy so early on. However, I want to jump his bones. I was so hot for him, then when I got home, I ended up fucking my ex. Even after I came, I spent the next 3 hours thinking about Daniel.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I both regret not going all the way and hooking up with a guy so early on
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? So fucking got. Love when a guy is assertive.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Guy hasn’t texted or called yet.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Makes me reconsider my stance on casual hookups. Maybe I don’t need to know the guy well to get my rocks off.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Can’t stop thinking about how hot it was. Can’t wait to go all the way with him. Once I have steamy hot sex, I can stop with my ex.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Feel like I’m playing Russian roulette until I end up with a very lousy sex partner. The last guy was just ok.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Reading the stories makes me wetter than porn.
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