What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Nigeria
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Trading
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight but kinky and open to experimenting.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 45
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None. This is my first
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? No hookup
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a petite, beautiful and had a nice figure and small firm boobs. She had the smoothest and most supple body. And she had such a lovely smile that lighted up her face. We became friends on Facebook during an industrial strike by the lecturers of the university we both attended. We didn’t meet till after the industrial strike was called off seven months later. By then, we had developed a strong attraction for each other even though we were yet to meet. Although she had a boyfriend, we were getting very attached to each other. I was particularly taken to her amiable nature. I was challenged by her boyfriend taunts that I would never get close to her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? In my room in the school. We saw for the first time after the strike was called off and we were all back to school. When I saw her, she smiled beautifully at me. I asked her to come to my room but she told me she was going to town and would be back the next day. The next day, she called to tell me she was back. It was evening. I asked her to come to my room. Immediately she entered the door, she flew into my arms and we started kissing.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were overcome with pent-up passion. As our clothes were coming off, she squatted and drew down my undies and took me in her mouth. Ordinarily, this was a deal breaker for me. But, surprisingly, I stayed hard. By then I was impatient to put my face between her legs. When she stopped sucking me, I carried her to the bed and took off her clothes. She had this chocolate, very smooth skin. I squeezed her small boobs, her nipples surprisingly long as they became taut in my palms. When my tongue made contact with her clit, she gasped. I worked my tongue in an O motion round and round her clit, eliciting a string of deep moaning from her. I gently eased my two longest fingers in her, thrusting upwards towards her G-spot. In no time she flooded my fingers with her juices in a very fluid orgasm. I was so elated that she had taken to me so strongly as to make her cum that hard for me. She dragged me up and planted a hot kiss on my lips, her tongue parting my lips in a probe, thirsty, tasting herself on my tongue. That turned me on so much. Flipping me on my back, she climbed on top of me and was about to slip my dick into her when I stopped her. Understanding my fears of a first-time sex without protection, she positioned her clit directly below my turgid dick lying flat on my stomach and started rocking forward and backward. Arching her back, she quickened her motion, moaning sensually to a shuddering climax. As the spasms of reaching her apex rocked through her body, I brought her forward and held her against me.
I really felt something for her at that moment. Something emergent but rapidly growing.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We struck up a relationship that lasted for three years. The next day, we made love again. There was penetration but we had so taken to each other that I didn’t use a condom. I fell deeply in love with her and she with me. I hoped we would end up together but that was not to be. I still love her and we have been avoiding meeting so as not to reawaken old flames.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. I don’t like telling outsiders, even friends, about my relationships and hookups.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The emotional and sexual connection was out of this world. With her, I enjoyed deep intimacy, heightened affection and unparalleled communication. We went everywhere together and shared three years of our loves just loving each other. And she had the sweetest and neatest punani I have ever come across. I still get hard thinking about the time we had together.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. Except, perhaps, that we didn’t end up together.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has made me realize that a casual encounter could grow into something meaningful. Now, I understand that two people who are physically attracted to each other need not wait for an emotional connection before hitting it off. Sex could trigger that inner thing that brings a couple together.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This hookup taught me that I could go years without penetrative sex. In our three years together, we had penetrative sex for about 6 times. But I gloried in licking her. I couldn’t go for three days without going down on her. When you are caught up in love for someone, you derive pleasure in pleasuring them.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex, if done responsibly and sincerely, should be acknowledged as part of our sexual culture. Every sexual encounter does not have to be within a relationship and neither must it lead to one. Sometimes, casual sex is a means to get a release from pent-up frustration, thereby enabling one to regain one’s focus. The society should stop the shaming of casual sex as sluttiness.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A commendable endeavor. This avenue has helped me realize that many people are embracing the normalcy of having sex without emotional attachments. They are refusing to let the hypocritical society box them into a guilty corner because of indulging a bodily need.
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