What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 60
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States near Atlanta Georgia
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? housewife
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Massage
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My daughters, daughter in law and granddaughter wanted to go get pedicures but I had had a pedicure two days before. I wanted to go with them and this place also offers massage so I decided to get one. This spa is a beautiful place in a very nice area of town. So as the others go for their pedicures, my masseuse leads me back to the massage room. He is a nice looking, young (late 20’s) asian, slim with nice muscles.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He asks me what type of massage I want and I tell him full body. He looks surprised which i thought was odd. He tells me to take off my clothes and get on the table and he leaves the room. I take off all my clothes and get on my back underneath the covers.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He comes back in and tells to turn over so I do. He then proceeds to pull the covers completely off of me. I’m thinking “well, this is new and different” but I decide to just go with it. He then covers my but with a small towel. He then tells me to get off the table. He has a thick accent so I’m not sure that I am hearing correctly but indicates again that I should get off the table. So I get up, doing the best I can to keep myself covered with the towel. He pulls the covers completely back up over the table and tells me to lie face down. I confirm that he wants me to lie down on top of the covers and then I awkwardly like down trying to keep myself covered and then kind of toss the towel over my butt. He then begins to massage my back and it was amazing. He has very good hands and I am feeling very relaxed. After a while he massages my back with hot stones which felt wonderful. Everything seems pretty normal after that unusual beginning. But then he pulls the towel up onto my back leaving my butt completely exposed. He puts rocks on the towel. Again, I just decide to go with it. He massages one of my legs and then moves on to my foot. He gets me to part my legs. When he massages my foot I almost drooled (and I mean that literally). He massages my other leg and foot and then removes the rocks from my back. Then (and I couldn’t believe this was happening) he crawled up on the table between my legs. I’m still on my stomach. He wraps my legs around him and has me grab his hands and he pulls me into and arch so that only my tummy was touching the table. He does this a few times and then he turns me on my side and has me bend one leg and applies pressure to my hip and then does this on the other side as well. So he has seen me completely naked. He has me turn over and places the towel over my mid section and massages my legs parting them. At one point he pulls my knee up to my chest. Then he asks if he can move the towel down to massage my belly and I say yes. So he exposes my breasts and belly and massages my belly and it felt amazing. He didn’t touch my breasts though. Then he asks if he can remove the towel entirely and I say yes. He then massages all around the tops of my legs and the top of my mound. I was very aroused and I’m sure he could tell because there was nothing left to the imagination after that massage. He then asked me if he could massage my vulva but I said no. I was not expecting the massage to go this way. So I got dressed and left with my daughters, daughter in law, and granddaughter. Later that night I was having sex with my husband and I described the whole thing to him which he thought was a huge turn on. I made him get in between my legs while I was on my tummy and wrap my legs around him because I wanted to know what the masseuse could see. My husband said he could see everything. The whole thing was a huge turn on and I began to regret that I had turned down the happy ending. So about six months later I went back. Everything went pretty much the same except this time he rubbed my breast too which felt really good. He rubbed all around my vulva and I was incredibly turned on and it would have been so easy for me to cum. He asked again if he could massage that area and this time I said yes. So he had me spread my legs and put the soles of my feet together. He then poured oil on that area. And then started to touch me down there but I didn’t like it. My clit is very sensitive and he was giving it too much direct stimulation. He put a finger near my opening and rested it there. And then he inserted. That part felt good but he was still giving my clit too much stimulation. He had an erection. I could tell because he put it by my hand but I didn’t touch. Anyway, this continued for a while. I tried to stop but I think he was determined to make me cum. I finally faked and orgasm (which I never do) just to end it.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was disappointed because I wanted it to end in a sexually satisfying way.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told some friends and family members that he offered me a happy ending after the first time. They all thought it was hilarious. I only told my husband about the second time.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I wanted it to end in orgasm
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The massage was absolutely amazing and a huge turn on. It was a turn on when I told my husband about it and led to some great sex between us.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That he rubbed my clit the wrong way and it didn’t feel good.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has caused me to believe that having sex with someone else could have a positive effect on my married sex life.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is fine. When I was younger I tended to think I needed to be in a more committed relationship. Women should be able to have casual sex without being slut shamed.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think its awesome.
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