What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Architect
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Best friend of my boyfriend at that time. We knew each other pretty well.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Caring, it’s really cold out there, and sharing same bed started it
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral and vaginal. I don’t even count it as sex. It was 10-minute thing, didn’t even realize it was done. We went straight to bed after that. And behaved as if nothing happened.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt guilty. The worst feeling isn’t being cheated, it’s you cheating on someone.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why. just went along with it, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Boyfriend, he broke up with me soon after that
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? I cheated on my boyfriend at that time.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I lost a boyfriend, he lost his close friend. I was slut shamed in front of my best friend. I guess all our mutual friends know about it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I feel on display and not at all confident about casual sex concept. Also started having commitment issues with every person.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Its okay to have casual sex. But judgmental society keeps bothering you. I hope they mind their own business
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