Sat On and Dominated by a Femdom

by SGPfan

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Insurance
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Gray Ace
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sat On and Dominated by a Femdom

How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup?

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? In her mid 40’s, about 6 feet tall, with long dark hair. I didn’t really know her that well before the hook up, I’d seen her around, I certainly knew of her, she is fairly well known in the local BDSM community. I was fairly attracted to her before the hookup, and found her overall attitude on things to be alluring.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it?  I had been going out to these BDSM themed events at a local nightclub for a while. The hookup itself was fairly spontaneous. She instigated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She dominated me publicly by ordering me to lie down on the floor, at which point she sat down astride my chest. A group of about 6 of her female friends where there watching, either kneeling down or standing around. I was a very exciting feeling, but also fairly intimidating. I felt nervous and vulnerable because I didn’t know what was coming next, or how long it would last. It was intimidating being pinned down to the floor with her (and the other women) towering over me like that. She mostly chatted to her friends while sitting on me. She would taunt and tease me a little, occasionally leaning down to get really close to my face while doing it. When I made any sudden movements, or squirmed around a little, she squeezed me tighter between her thighs and told me to keep still. It went on for 2 hours before she eventually got off me to attend to other events at the party.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup I had somewhat mixed emotions. I felt very excited by what happened, but also found the intensity of it all a little overwhelming. But I mostly felt positive about it, and felt hopeful that it, or something similar might happen again at some point.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup?

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned it to a few friends in the scene, but haven’t discussed it in great detail.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The feeling of being dominated and controlled.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Feeling helpless and vulnerable.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It didn’t change a whole lot. I had these kinds of desires long before the hookup took place.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex can be a great thing, and hate the way society tends to look down on sex in any other context than a committed monogamous relationship.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Just discovered the sight. Seems interesting.

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