Sweet Lover

by Kirstine

Gender: Female
Age: 47
Race/ethnicity: Danish
Current location: Denmark
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Teacher
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Not religious, but spiritual
How religious are you? Not at all
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 150+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Sweet Lover

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)?: Lover

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This guy is 13 years younger than me, Moroccan. I met him some years before we started having sex, and I was attracted to him, but did not want a relationship to him at that time. First time I met him another women, also a bit elder than him, tried very hard to get him, and my thought was I could understand that. We met several times, but just for talking and going to cafes.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I asked in a social forum if someone wanted to join me for a dance class. He recognized me and wanted to join. The intimacy at the dance class made us want to touch each other. We could not go anywhere the day we realized we wanted to have sex, but a few days after we could be in a friends apartment. During the 1½ year we have met, it has been like that, met half-secretly at friends places.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First time it was just nice, I need time to really enjoy it. After that it has been very nice, often massage, time to talk, to lay and hold each other. But often only for 1 or 2 hours, it was never a relation for other things than sex after we started that.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, often, but not always.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He used condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I felt attracted to him, and I liked we could be open about other relations we had. And he is so incredibly sweet, good at massage, and also good friend.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I miss him often, his sweetness and soft kisses, his massages.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To some friends. They think it is ok.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing is the open communication, no hidden things really. And that he was a sweet lover.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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