by Dama

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None


How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was a business trip and it was a long day flying… Had hardly eaten anything and I was traveling with my coworker, I was hungry and there was a group meeting planned for that night and that is where I saw him, he was part of the group of 5 with me being te only girl

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I liked him immediately and we started sharing looks across the table, he seemed nerdy, young and very smart, I had never liked a white blue eyed guy before I stick with the tan Hispanic type just like me, it had been 5 years of marriage and a son and my sexual life has come to a stop, long periods of no sex and being away from home and the idea of this guy alone a couple of rooms down from mine was definitely giving me dirty thoughts, the second day of the business trip I drank a little bit to try to keep my mind busy, it didn’t work because I ended up slipping my room key in his pocket, I was scared he would reject me but I am fairly tall, athletic and very flirty.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I have always been a good girl, and this situation had made brought the bad girl I wanted to release, the one my husband would never accept, I got myself ready for bed in tank top and a thong and I heard the door open, I kissed him I put my hands around his neck while he grabbed my ass and we started moving to the bed. He tried to get out of the situation saying he was very flattered by the opportunity but he had a girlfriend and I was so turned on by then I kissed him and showed him how much I wanted him until he couldn’t resist, he then turned into this bad guy , this guy that fucked me so hard I was hardly breathing, I had never been owned that way. He gave me his key and we met the next night, he was harder and ready for round two and three… I had so much pleasure , it was the best birthday present ever

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had no expectations but it was really hard to not get emotionally attached since I have never done anything like this before

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? A little bit

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just one friend who knows my husband and I have different sexual needs

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having the freedom of being myself and explore that part of me I never got the chance

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The emotional attachment

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes this has made me realized the things that are important for me in the bedroom

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Even though it won’t happen again I can’t help but wished it does

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has help with the myth of casual sex being a very inappropriate thing

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s amazing to know how different can all be and how we don’t have to be ashamed of our sexual desires

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