The Leash



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 7

The Leash

How long ago did this hookup happen? I came home from it a couple of days ago.

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? F. is the father of a high school friend of mine. He is 48, but pretty sporty and still has his full hair. He is tall and a bit hairy on the chest. F. had seduced me last year at a party when I was visiting my hometown. I live in a different city now, but I visit my parents and high school friends several times a year. You can read about my previous sexual experiences with F. in earlier stories.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it?  I have had a boyfriend for a while, but that did not work out too well. So I finally responded to the frequent messages that F. had sent me after our last meet up. (See earlier story) I realized that I still had the hots for him for some bizarre reason. He is a lot older than me and quite a dominant person which can make me feel uncomfortable at times but then again it is somehow exciting.

I skyped with him and we had long conversations. Our chats soon became sexual and he had me strip in front of the camera for him. We discussed how we should meet up again. F. got me so horny that I suggested that I could spend part of the semester break at my parent’s and do an internship that I am required to do. F. was, of course, intrigued by this idea. The plan we ended up agreeing on was that I would live at his place and tell my parents that I was staying at a friends house because it is more fun and the house is closer to my workplace. I could visit my parents when he would meet up with his daughter.

F. also suggested that he would like to try out BDSM and asked me whether I am up for this. I am a naturally curious person and very willing to do sexual experiments. Being with F. before had been a bit of a slave experience in my mind anyway. I figured that I had a side of me that wanted to submit. So I said yes, on the condition that we stop if I don’t like it. I also insisted that he is not allowed to cause any physical pain. I am totally not into that. To be honest, I feared that F. might do that whether I like it or not. The curiosity trumped over the fear, so I was game.

I got on the pill before so the sex would not be restricted by condoms.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did as we had planned and I got to F.’s house with the intent on staying there for six weeks. He had equipped himself with a lot of viagra, so I was sure we would have hot times together. The sexual chemistry between us was still working well. I really enjoyed having sex with F.

For the BDSM aspect, F. had bought a dog leash and some handcuffs. The dog collar was pink and girlish, it was padded on the inside. F. told me that I would have to always were it when we were together, also in public. I should preferably also wear it when I am by myself and in public. Of course, i did not consent to the latter.

Our SM experiments felt a bit awkward at first but F. is naturally good at this and soon we fit into our roles. He had me walk through his house with me on all fours at the beginning, but we stopped that soon and it was mostly F. directing me in sexual activity using the leash.
F. basically made me his blowjob slave. I would give him blowjobs on all occasions, multiple times a day. During breakfast, in bed, while he was watching TV. I would literally kneel in front of him, naked apart from the leash and orally pleasure him while he was watching TV with his pants open and eating snacks. He would completely ignore me and just pull the leash and snap at me if I did something that he did not like.
The highlight of that was that F. once picked up the phone while I was giving him oral. Towards the end of the conversation, he told his friend on the phone what was going on, but hung up before he ejaculated into my mouth. F. liked blowing his load onto my body and telling me to lick it off.

We did a lot of dirty talk and I enjoyed that a lot. F. called me his young slut, his cum dump, his blowjob bunny, his little fuck whore. He boasted with his stories about how he had fucked other women and what they had done. He suggested that he should get one of those women for a threesome with me. I consented, but it never came to this. I think it was also a tease with no real plan behind it. F. also liked to tell me that he had informed his friends about our sex life and what a great willing slut I was.

When it comes to SM, I only enjoy the psychological part. F. has given me some smacks on the bum, but that was limited. We ended up not using the handcuffs that much, but I was wearing the collar and leash all the time.

A couple of times I wore it by myself in the city, and I felt proud and sexy wearing this symbol of submission. F. introduced me to some of his friends with me wearing the collar, showing me off as his young lover. He loved kissing me in public for that reason. It felt quite embarrassing for me, but at the same time , I felt appreciation as a priced sex partner.

Of course, we also had a lot of vaginal sex and a bit of anal. F. loves sticking his fingers into my bumhole while he is fucking me. I enjoy that a lot. Later on, F. bought me a little butt plug which he would put into my arse during intercourse. We went into the sex shop together to increase my sweet embarrassment. I like the anal stimulation, but I am not really into anal sex. F. only fucked my arse twice because I realized that I don t enjoy this as much as vaginal sex. We had a lot of rough sex this way, F. always directing me with the leash and his dirty commands.

We also cuddled and had romantic sex, fell asleep in each other’s arms. We are lovers, and the SM was only roleplay. At other times, F. would just be his sweet self and treat me with respect. We had lots of interesting conversations and did some sports together.
He paid for everything in our time together and bought me some nice presents. I know this was meant to make me feel more slutty and like a whore, but it also had a nice touch because the nature of the presents revealed that F. actually cared about me as a person. He has a daughter my age, after all. I don’t think F. is really able to treat women badly.
I have to admit that this whole SM stuff had my head spinning because it kind of contrasts with my feminist views. I ended up being ok with it. It is the dirty secret side of me. It is just a role play.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When it was time to leave F.’s house and return to my studies, F. asked me again whether I would like to stay with him. I had tears in my eyes when we parted, but I want to keep my independence. I want to live my own life and not in the shadow of a husband. I am only a part time sex toy, after all.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Submission / Relinquishing power, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I kept this one a secret from my friends. Too kinky.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experimenting with sex, being with a man that I really respect and appreciate.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Leaving F., conflicting feelings about it at times.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think about this SM stuff again and again and I am not really sure whether it conforms to my feminist worldview. I have to admit that I have enjoyed it, but should women endorse such roles? Doesn’t this cement patriarchy? But then, there are male subs and it is just a role-playing game, isn’t it?
I have to accept that I am a bit of a sub. At least I enjoy playing that role. Not sure how much of a role I do want this to play in my future sex life.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love having casual sex. I aim for having an open relationship sometime. I want to keep my independence, so no marriage to some rich guy and then just being his household slave.

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