Tinder Date as First Time Ever

by Sheena is a punk rocker

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Video Editor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Tinder Date as First Time Ever

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a few inches taller than me (5’5”), had a cute boyish face, and was soft all over. I didn’t know him at all I met him on tinder the day before, and we set up a time and place to meet and have sex. I didn’t tell him that it was going to be my first time having sex, but I’m really glad I didn’t because I feel like he would have treated me differently. Not that he would judge me necessarily but would have babied me perhaps. Anyways I had got the feeling that he was a nice guy that just wanted to get laid and that was exactly it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We planned for me to meet him at his house around 9:30 pm but I went to a movie that didn’t get out until after 10, and he was kind of freaking out I think that I wouldn’t show up. He messaged me asking if I wanted to shower with him when I got there or if he should do it by himself and I chose the latter as I did not feel that comfortable with him yet. When I got to his house, I messaged him that I was outside and he quickly opened the door and led me to his room. He was a young college student and had a relatively small room with a twin sized bed. We both knew what we were there for so we got to it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I wanted him to take the lead a bit to help me along without giving off complete virgin vibes. We stripped down and started making out and then attempted missionary but I wasn’t aroused enough, so it hurt more than I thought but luckily I brought a little thing of lube. Then we tried it out again but switched to doggie style which we ended up both liking the most in this case. Then we took a break from that, and he asked to give me head, and I said sure! The fact that I was offered head my first time kind of blew my mind, so I was more than willing to oblige. Then I reciprocated but wasn’t very good at it and didn’t last as long as he did for me. We spent the rest of our time doing doggie style, and he finished in a condom. I didn’t have an orgasm but wasn’t really expecting to have one either, so I was not that disappointed. Overall I had a really good time!

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After I got dressed and was heading out when he asked if I wanted to watch a movie with him sometime and I said yeah sure I love movies and he kissed me. We exchanged numbers, and he’s initiating texting every day since! I think we can be friend with benefits, and I don’t think I will develop feelings, but I can’t say that for him. I think he’s a really nice guy and I appreciate him as a sexual partner.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Everyone else was/is doing it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my closest friends as they knew I was the last virgin within the friend group and they were really surprised that I lost it this way!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got to experience sex for the first time and it was really great and it makes me excited to explore my sexuality further!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Probably that I didn’t know how to give a proper blowjob and felt silly while attempting it.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah, I think casual sex can be great and I don’t think every time needs to be a special moment between someone you love/care for emotionally. I feel a stronger connection with myself and my body. I have been insecure my whole life about my body but to be desired was a powerful thing that I had control over.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a really interesting way to become more open with talking about sexual experiences.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!